Friday, July 27, 2007

Is A Dom or Domme Necessary?

I have been asked this question on numerous occasions over the years by those investigating or starting out in this lifestyle, and though I am a Dom and continue to be a Dom for over 30 years, the true answer is "No". Now, before all the Doms and Dommes in the world have fits, read on.

I have stated on numerous occasions that this lifestyle is for, built by, controlled by, instituted by, and for the enjoyment of the couple involved. In other words, it is the couples responsibilitiy to figure out for themselves if they wish the 3rd party (or parties) to their relationship to be Dominant or not. Some may well wish their partner in this lifestyle to be a Dom or Domme who will guide, nurture, and use the couple as they see fit.

Remember this ONE guiding principal in the cuckold lifestyle: This lifestyle choice should be used to enhance your relationship and marriage, not destroy it. A good and competent Master or Mistress will wish the same for you and your partner.

One advantage of having a Master or Mistress is to fulfill the Dominant role that either or both of you may have. Some also enjoy a level of humiliation attached to their own role in this lifestyle and that also can only be acommodated safely and properly by the use of a Competent Master or Mistress. And yes, I say competent because as in all things, many feel that if they yell or hollar or bluster or use force, they are a Master or Mistress. NOTHING could be farther from the truth. A Competent Master and a Competent Mistress have had years of involvement and have learned their craft. They realise and accept the responsibility for the safety and pleasure of their submissive(s) as much if not more than their own. Thus choose wisely.

As in all things in this blog, if you wish to contact Me for further assistance of any kind, Please do so via email to Sir.Strict@gmail.com

Enjoy your search.