Hello.
If you are reading this I wish to inform you that I have reposted this blog to a new address. Please go to http://thecuckoldlifestyle.blogspot.com/ and there you will find this blog reposted in a more understandable form and also My current email address is displayed there.
I will be closing this blog in due course and will ONLY use that blog listed above and the email address attached to it.
Thank you and I hope to see you there.
Sir.Strict@gmail.com THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
Friday, July 25, 2008
Sunday, June 15, 2008
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Friday, May 23, 2008
Thursday, May 15, 2008
A question of prejudice
I wish to make a statement that many will disagree with. I know this because it is about something that is so imbedded in the thought pattern of so many North Americans in particular that it raises its head in almost every discussion about this lifestyle. What others choose to believe in their fantasy world is entirely their choice, but from experience I know the following to be true.
It appears that many feel that cock size and/or the ability to use it effectively as a lover, is restricted and governed by the colour of one's skin. That has to be the most prejudicial statement based on pure fantasy that there ever has been. If you happen to believe that cock size or the ability to use is it based on race, then you have a prejudice My friend, and like it or not, it is untrue.
I have trained approximately two couples per year over the past 30 years, and based on that experience, and on those who inhabit My "stable" of males and females I have to call upon to assist in training, I KNOW that no one race has a superiority of ANY kind.
I have trained couples from the white, black, red, yellow (and other Asian races), tan, olive, and South Pacific races. I also have seen enormous cocks in all of those races, as well as cocks so miniscule as to almost make them non-existent. Therefore if you, as a cuckold or cuckold couple, distance yourself from ANY race simply based on the colour of skin, you are missing out on a world of large and effective cocks to add to the pleasure of your arrangement. Don't believe Me? Ask your doctor as he/she has no doubt treated all races of people and will confirm what I've said.
Prejudice of ANY kind on this little green speck in space makes NO sense whatsoever. Don't limit yourself and your enjoyment by choosing only one race to have sex with. All races have people who are sized just like any other race. Skin colour matters not a bit in the final analysis of lovers and their cuckoldresses. Good people, no matter what race they are, is what is important to ensure you get the full benefit from a cuckold lifestyle.
I know this view will not be shared by all, but like it or not, it is the truth, and also what I have observed first hand over the past 30 years of training people to live in this lifestyle without it damaging their own partnership. Use your head and choose people who mesh with your own desires and make intelligent decisions about those you take as lovers. In that way you will indeed enhance your partnership, not screw it up.
Enjoy.
Sir.Strict - aka CoupleTrainer.
It appears that many feel that cock size and/or the ability to use it effectively as a lover, is restricted and governed by the colour of one's skin. That has to be the most prejudicial statement based on pure fantasy that there ever has been. If you happen to believe that cock size or the ability to use is it based on race, then you have a prejudice My friend, and like it or not, it is untrue.
I have trained approximately two couples per year over the past 30 years, and based on that experience, and on those who inhabit My "stable" of males and females I have to call upon to assist in training, I KNOW that no one race has a superiority of ANY kind.
I have trained couples from the white, black, red, yellow (and other Asian races), tan, olive, and South Pacific races. I also have seen enormous cocks in all of those races, as well as cocks so miniscule as to almost make them non-existent. Therefore if you, as a cuckold or cuckold couple, distance yourself from ANY race simply based on the colour of skin, you are missing out on a world of large and effective cocks to add to the pleasure of your arrangement. Don't believe Me? Ask your doctor as he/she has no doubt treated all races of people and will confirm what I've said.
Prejudice of ANY kind on this little green speck in space makes NO sense whatsoever. Don't limit yourself and your enjoyment by choosing only one race to have sex with. All races have people who are sized just like any other race. Skin colour matters not a bit in the final analysis of lovers and their cuckoldresses. Good people, no matter what race they are, is what is important to ensure you get the full benefit from a cuckold lifestyle.
I know this view will not be shared by all, but like it or not, it is the truth, and also what I have observed first hand over the past 30 years of training people to live in this lifestyle without it damaging their own partnership. Use your head and choose people who mesh with your own desires and make intelligent decisions about those you take as lovers. In that way you will indeed enhance your partnership, not screw it up.
Enjoy.
Sir.Strict - aka CoupleTrainer.
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Repost of The Necessity for Contracts
Hello and welcome back.
When I train a cuckold couple that training usually is 2 weeks in length and takes place on the Gold Coast of Queensland Australia. I have trained to a limited degree, couples online but obviously the results obtainable in a face to face training is unsurpassed.
So dear reader - remember that this "contract" is between Myself as the trainer and the cuckold couple, or cuckoldress or cuckold involved. Do not take the dates etc as being something you must do. It is for your interest and understanding only:
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
Below is a description of what I, as a Cuckold Couple or Slut Trainer, do in person, how I do it, how it is run, and what you need to do to have your cuckoldress (and yourself?) trained as a true cuckoldress by Me. You are to read it, and then return it to Me with the words "I agree" or "I have done as told" attached to each section of this contract signed with your name.
You will then make any and all travel arrangements to arrive at Coolangatta airport on the dates specified, and will contact the hotel I use and make your partners as well as your reservations and pay for them in advance.
Next you will IMMEDIATELY inform Me of the detals of the arrangements you have made so that I may inform any Male or Female training assistants of their need, in the hopes that they will be free to accommodate any training or use to fuck your cuckoldress that is required. These are very busy people and are not always available. Thus it is imperative that as soon as you have made arrangements, that you inform Me of them so that I can contact and book these highly qualified individuals.
NO MONETARY EXCHANGE is EVER made by Me, or anyone involved with Me in this enterprise. The reason We do this is NOT to make money. So no, there is never ANY charge for this training. Our desire is to assist couples to learn what the lifestyle is about, how to handle the many psychological barriers that may be encountered, and to provide actual training in the arts of love making and service to a competent Master or lovers in future.
Also Note: NO ONE will be allowed to fuck your slut/partner until you are present to witness it. The description and contract follow:
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
1. First of all I do NOT send photos of the males or females I use to train My sluts to ANYONE. I have various males and females that I use to assist Me in training sluts and I and they, will NOT be "coaxed" into ANYTHING so unprofessional and childish as sending cock picks for you to see. If you want to see a photo of a male cock, do a web search for one.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
2. I have ONE black male that I call on to service those who wish it, but ONLY ONE. This is not a "Takeaway" where you choose how many orders of "black" or "white" meat to have, with a side order of "a bisexual female". I, and ONLY I, will choose who is allowed to fuck and use your slut after her initial training with you present, NO one else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
3. The fact that you have to travel to the Gold Coast is not My responsibility. This is where it happens in safety and comfort, it is where I supply the training and sex in safety and comfort AND the ability for you to watch as other males (and occasionally females) use her and give her the orgasms she so rightly deserves, NOT anywhere else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
4. Your wife/partner will be required to be here "On Her Own" for 5 DAYS BEFORE YOU get to join her in her training sessions and thus see anything involved in her training. Her training will be comprehensive and complete (and no, she will not be fucked by anyone until you are present). Her initial training by Me alone is necessary to psychologically train her to be a competent slut for you in future. That training will be done exclusively by Me. You may be present at night, but you will disappear during the daytime in the initial week of her training so that she may derive the upmost benefit from that week.
Also know that I WILL NOT FUCK YOUR WIFE - EVER, not during or after training. I do not fuck any woman Myself. I will be responsible for her oral training however to ensure she is also an accomplished oral slut for you and/or her future lovers. Because of the nature of the training no one, including you, will be allowed to be present during this initial 5 days of training. Once it is finished, and she is ready to try fucking other men for you, then, and ONLY then will you or anyone else be allowed to be present.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
5. You, as a male cuckold, if you both wish, will also be trained in whatever manner the two of you decide as being appropriate. You may wish to simply learn how to handle the fact that other men (and/or women) now sexually enjoy your partner, you may wish to learn now to serve her Master or she and her lovers, or you may wish to learn how to sexually serve her lovers as well (orally, anally, humiliation, etc). ANY training is possible, including simply having you sit and watch her make love to others or film her on you own equipment for the enjoyment of the two of you, but it must be a joint decision between the two of you and presented as such to Me. Remember, this lifestyle is ONLY going to work for you if BOTH OF YOU agree on trying it in your relationship.
Though this lifestyle has been around since the mid 12th century, it is NOT for everyone. Thus, I cannot stress strongly enough that the two of you need to decide if you wish to try it or not, and to what extent you wish to involve yourself in pleasureable sexual activities with males and females of your own choosing. This lifestyle is meant to enhance your relationship, not destroy it. Keep that in mind.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
6. Therefore, IF you are serious, and IF you wish Me to proceed, you will book her into the *Name withheld in the interest of security but supplied when confirmation information is supplied re your training* Hotel in Southport, Queensland (next to Surfers Paradise - see Google MAPS to see where that is.)
NOTE: You may book into the same hotel and the two of you will spend evenings together. I will be present between 8:15am and 3:30pm daily for that first week. YOU will be ABSENT during that time, unless I tell you otherwise.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
7. This service is FREE OF MONETARY CHARGES.
You will pay for your accommodation and food etc as a normal course of events, but I do NOT and never will charge money for training people how to enhance their partnership. I believe those who do charge money for that service are, in My opinion, not worth dealing with.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
Be well.
Sir.Strict - THE cuckold couple trainer.
PS - if you wish to contact Me directly, email Me at Sir.Strict@gmail.com . I WILL help you both if you're real.
When I train a cuckold couple that training usually is 2 weeks in length and takes place on the Gold Coast of Queensland Australia. I have trained to a limited degree, couples online but obviously the results obtainable in a face to face training is unsurpassed.
So dear reader - remember that this "contract" is between Myself as the trainer and the cuckold couple, or cuckoldress or cuckold involved. Do not take the dates etc as being something you must do. It is for your interest and understanding only:
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
Below is a description of what I, as a Cuckold Couple or Slut Trainer, do in person, how I do it, how it is run, and what you need to do to have your cuckoldress (and yourself?) trained as a true cuckoldress by Me. You are to read it, and then return it to Me with the words "I agree" or "I have done as told" attached to each section of this contract signed with your name.
You will then make any and all travel arrangements to arrive at Coolangatta airport on the dates specified, and will contact the hotel I use and make your partners as well as your reservations and pay for them in advance.
Next you will IMMEDIATELY inform Me of the detals of the arrangements you have made so that I may inform any Male or Female training assistants of their need, in the hopes that they will be free to accommodate any training or use to fuck your cuckoldress that is required. These are very busy people and are not always available. Thus it is imperative that as soon as you have made arrangements, that you inform Me of them so that I can contact and book these highly qualified individuals.
NO MONETARY EXCHANGE is EVER made by Me, or anyone involved with Me in this enterprise. The reason We do this is NOT to make money. So no, there is never ANY charge for this training. Our desire is to assist couples to learn what the lifestyle is about, how to handle the many psychological barriers that may be encountered, and to provide actual training in the arts of love making and service to a competent Master or lovers in future.
Also Note: NO ONE will be allowed to fuck your slut/partner until you are present to witness it. The description and contract follow:
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
1. First of all I do NOT send photos of the males or females I use to train My sluts to ANYONE. I have various males and females that I use to assist Me in training sluts and I and they, will NOT be "coaxed" into ANYTHING so unprofessional and childish as sending cock picks for you to see. If you want to see a photo of a male cock, do a web search for one.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
2. I have ONE black male that I call on to service those who wish it, but ONLY ONE. This is not a "Takeaway" where you choose how many orders of "black" or "white" meat to have, with a side order of "a bisexual female". I, and ONLY I, will choose who is allowed to fuck and use your slut after her initial training with you present, NO one else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
3. The fact that you have to travel to the Gold Coast is not My responsibility. This is where it happens in safety and comfort, it is where I supply the training and sex in safety and comfort AND the ability for you to watch as other males (and occasionally females) use her and give her the orgasms she so rightly deserves, NOT anywhere else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
4. Your wife/partner will be required to be here "On Her Own" for 5 DAYS BEFORE YOU get to join her in her training sessions and thus see anything involved in her training. Her training will be comprehensive and complete (and no, she will not be fucked by anyone until you are present). Her initial training by Me alone is necessary to psychologically train her to be a competent slut for you in future. That training will be done exclusively by Me. You may be present at night, but you will disappear during the daytime in the initial week of her training so that she may derive the upmost benefit from that week.
Also know that I WILL NOT FUCK YOUR WIFE - EVER, not during or after training. I do not fuck any woman Myself. I will be responsible for her oral training however to ensure she is also an accomplished oral slut for you and/or her future lovers. Because of the nature of the training no one, including you, will be allowed to be present during this initial 5 days of training. Once it is finished, and she is ready to try fucking other men for you, then, and ONLY then will you or anyone else be allowed to be present.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
5. You, as a male cuckold, if you both wish, will also be trained in whatever manner the two of you decide as being appropriate. You may wish to simply learn how to handle the fact that other men (and/or women) now sexually enjoy your partner, you may wish to learn now to serve her Master or she and her lovers, or you may wish to learn how to sexually serve her lovers as well (orally, anally, humiliation, etc). ANY training is possible, including simply having you sit and watch her make love to others or film her on you own equipment for the enjoyment of the two of you, but it must be a joint decision between the two of you and presented as such to Me. Remember, this lifestyle is ONLY going to work for you if BOTH OF YOU agree on trying it in your relationship.
Though this lifestyle has been around since the mid 12th century, it is NOT for everyone. Thus, I cannot stress strongly enough that the two of you need to decide if you wish to try it or not, and to what extent you wish to involve yourself in pleasureable sexual activities with males and females of your own choosing. This lifestyle is meant to enhance your relationship, not destroy it. Keep that in mind.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
6. Therefore, IF you are serious, and IF you wish Me to proceed, you will book her into the *Name withheld in the interest of security but supplied when confirmation information is supplied re your training* Hotel in Southport, Queensland (next to Surfers Paradise - see Google MAPS to see where that is.)
NOTE: You may book into the same hotel and the two of you will spend evenings together. I will be present between 8:15am and 3:30pm daily for that first week. YOU will be ABSENT during that time, unless I tell you otherwise.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
7. This service is FREE OF MONETARY CHARGES.
You will pay for your accommodation and food etc as a normal course of events, but I do NOT and never will charge money for training people how to enhance their partnership. I believe those who do charge money for that service are, in My opinion, not worth dealing with.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
Be well.
Sir.Strict - THE cuckold couple trainer.
PS - if you wish to contact Me directly, email Me at Sir.Strict@gmail.com . I WILL help you both if you're real.
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
Clearing The Air
I am writing this entry in hopes it will clear the air about misconceptions and fears that many have with anything online. I would be the first to tell people to be cautious, but I also want to state publically the following for ALL to see. If anyone can prove Me wrong, please email Me and let's chat.
It is suggeted that, if you are reading this blog for the first time, you start at the bottom and work up. Be aware - it is LONG. Do NOT attempt to read and digest it all in one try. However it was posted in that order. Enjoy.
1. Do I make money from this site or from the training I do? NO. I never have, nor will I ever make one cent from this. Nor will I allow anyone associated with the training I do make ANY monetary gain from their contribution. This is Free advice, Free training. Yes, the training should always be done here and thus, yes, there is travel and accommodation involved. I do NOT make anything from those either. YOU book them yourself. As a help in finding suitable accommodation here, I have found a local hotel overlooking the sea, which is known more to locals than the general public, that doesn't cost the price of your first born to stay in it, yet it is clean, nice, private, close to everything, and enjoyable. Look at the "Repost of In Person Contract " in this blog and you'll see the criteria used. When, and ONLY when, you make your bookings for training, I will tell you the hotel name and how to access it (which can be viewed online and booked by you online as well).
2. Do I train only one member of a couple? Primarily that depends on the people involved, and the extent of their training needs. But suffice it to say that I have trained both cuckoldresses alone and cuckolds alone. However - their partner is always here with them and nearby as well. The fact that their partner does not wish to be trained is their decision, but their presence is required none the less. ALL training sessions last from approximately 8:15am to approximately 3:00pm.
3. Why do I say the first week of training is to be with the female cuckoldress and Myself alone? It's simple really. That time is primarily used to give the woman a forum for discussion that she previously has not had. In this way, she can discuss, with a somewhat "disinterested third party" her wants, needs, desires, fears, worries, etc. etc. In other words, she is free to talk about ANYTHING that has concerned her in the past, or that she can see to be a problem for her in the future. The vast majority of women NEVER GET THAT CHANCE. When I train, yours will. Like most things, when things like fears or concerns are brought out into the open and discussed rationally, especially with a somewhat "disinterested third party", they tend to disappear.
3.a. I also, if a woman asks, or I can determne she should receive training in, anything sexual, I will find a way to provide that training. I don't just "fuck" women. That is not why they are primarily here for training, nor why I do this. However, if they wish to hone their oral skills, or enticement, or anal skills, or what ever they feel they need help with, I will try to provide that council and training as well.
3.b. and yes, the same holds true for any submissive cuckold. In the second week he gets a training session as well, though it may be necessary to have also his cuckoldress present when I train him. The point is, yes, I will train cuckolds - how to serve, how to fluff, how to do cleanup, how to provide what ever his cuckoldress and her lover require of him.
4. Will I keep in touch after the training? Hopefully yes, I will, via email and also via Yahoo messenger contact. But ONLY if the couple wishes that contact.
5. And maybe this is the most telling and important part of this blog: Why do I do this? Why spend the time trying to make it easier for people to embrace or at least try this lifestyle? Simply because I'm one of those people who enjoys helping other people. It's that simple. I have been involved in this lifestyle as a trainer (and initialy as a bull though I HATE that term), and wish to help others realise that this lifestyle can help them live their fantasy..without destroying their relationship in the process. If she wishes sex with others, and/or he wishes bisexual servitude with others, or he simply wants to know that his partner is having good fulfilling beautiful sex and is satisfied.... and I can help them both achieve that goal, then I have helped someone. THAT is the ONLY reason I do this. There is NO other.
6. I am in Australia on what is known as the Gold Coast of the state of Queensland (look it up online). YES, that is probably a long way from you, but know this: I have successfully trained over 57 couples now, in the last 28 years, from the USA, Canada, the UK, Germany, New Zealand, and Australia. If they came here, and now pass My contact to others to contact Me for the trainig I provide, I must be doing something right or they wouldn't pass on My contact. I do NOT travel any more. If you wish My training YOU come to Me.
7. Where can you contact Me? The email I have set up for this is twofold. There is one account at coupletrainer@gmail.com and another at Sir.Strict@gmail.com . Either is fine to use, though I personally use the second one more. I also can be added to your yahoo messenger as Sir.Strict@yahoo.com (note the difference - the account exists but I never use it except for registering yahoo messenger) . I prefer that you do that ONLY after W/we have talked about your needs.
Thank you for plowing through this section, but hopefully it has helped to answer questions you may have. If you have any questions after reading this blog, email Me and let's discuss it.
It is suggeted that, if you are reading this blog for the first time, you start at the bottom and work up. Be aware - it is LONG. Do NOT attempt to read and digest it all in one try. However it was posted in that order. Enjoy.
1. Do I make money from this site or from the training I do? NO. I never have, nor will I ever make one cent from this. Nor will I allow anyone associated with the training I do make ANY monetary gain from their contribution. This is Free advice, Free training. Yes, the training should always be done here and thus, yes, there is travel and accommodation involved. I do NOT make anything from those either. YOU book them yourself. As a help in finding suitable accommodation here, I have found a local hotel overlooking the sea, which is known more to locals than the general public, that doesn't cost the price of your first born to stay in it, yet it is clean, nice, private, close to everything, and enjoyable. Look at the "Repost of In Person Contract " in this blog and you'll see the criteria used. When, and ONLY when, you make your bookings for training, I will tell you the hotel name and how to access it (which can be viewed online and booked by you online as well).
2. Do I train only one member of a couple? Primarily that depends on the people involved, and the extent of their training needs. But suffice it to say that I have trained both cuckoldresses alone and cuckolds alone. However - their partner is always here with them and nearby as well. The fact that their partner does not wish to be trained is their decision, but their presence is required none the less. ALL training sessions last from approximately 8:15am to approximately 3:00pm.
3. Why do I say the first week of training is to be with the female cuckoldress and Myself alone? It's simple really. That time is primarily used to give the woman a forum for discussion that she previously has not had. In this way, she can discuss, with a somewhat "disinterested third party" her wants, needs, desires, fears, worries, etc. etc. In other words, she is free to talk about ANYTHING that has concerned her in the past, or that she can see to be a problem for her in the future. The vast majority of women NEVER GET THAT CHANCE. When I train, yours will. Like most things, when things like fears or concerns are brought out into the open and discussed rationally, especially with a somewhat "disinterested third party", they tend to disappear.
3.a. I also, if a woman asks, or I can determne she should receive training in, anything sexual, I will find a way to provide that training. I don't just "fuck" women. That is not why they are primarily here for training, nor why I do this. However, if they wish to hone their oral skills, or enticement, or anal skills, or what ever they feel they need help with, I will try to provide that council and training as well.
3.b. and yes, the same holds true for any submissive cuckold. In the second week he gets a training session as well, though it may be necessary to have also his cuckoldress present when I train him. The point is, yes, I will train cuckolds - how to serve, how to fluff, how to do cleanup, how to provide what ever his cuckoldress and her lover require of him.
4. Will I keep in touch after the training? Hopefully yes, I will, via email and also via Yahoo messenger contact. But ONLY if the couple wishes that contact.
5. And maybe this is the most telling and important part of this blog: Why do I do this? Why spend the time trying to make it easier for people to embrace or at least try this lifestyle? Simply because I'm one of those people who enjoys helping other people. It's that simple. I have been involved in this lifestyle as a trainer (and initialy as a bull though I HATE that term), and wish to help others realise that this lifestyle can help them live their fantasy..without destroying their relationship in the process. If she wishes sex with others, and/or he wishes bisexual servitude with others, or he simply wants to know that his partner is having good fulfilling beautiful sex and is satisfied.... and I can help them both achieve that goal, then I have helped someone. THAT is the ONLY reason I do this. There is NO other.
6. I am in Australia on what is known as the Gold Coast of the state of Queensland (look it up online). YES, that is probably a long way from you, but know this: I have successfully trained over 57 couples now, in the last 28 years, from the USA, Canada, the UK, Germany, New Zealand, and Australia. If they came here, and now pass My contact to others to contact Me for the trainig I provide, I must be doing something right or they wouldn't pass on My contact. I do NOT travel any more. If you wish My training YOU come to Me.
7. Where can you contact Me? The email I have set up for this is twofold. There is one account at coupletrainer@gmail.com and another at Sir.Strict@gmail.com . Either is fine to use, though I personally use the second one more. I also can be added to your yahoo messenger as Sir.Strict@yahoo.com (note the difference - the account exists but I never use it except for registering yahoo messenger) . I prefer that you do that ONLY after W/we have talked about your needs.
Thank you for plowing through this section, but hopefully it has helped to answer questions you may have. If you have any questions after reading this blog, email Me and let's discuss it.
Friday, July 27, 2007
Is A Dom or Domme Necessary?
I have been asked this question on numerous occasions over the years by those investigating or starting out in this lifestyle, and though I am a Dom and continue to be a Dom for over 30 years, the true answer is "No". Now, before all the Doms and Dommes in the world have fits, read on.
I have stated on numerous occasions that this lifestyle is for, built by, controlled by, instituted by, and for the enjoyment of the couple involved. In other words, it is the couples responsibilitiy to figure out for themselves if they wish the 3rd party (or parties) to their relationship to be Dominant or not. Some may well wish their partner in this lifestyle to be a Dom or Domme who will guide, nurture, and use the couple as they see fit.
Remember this ONE guiding principal in the cuckold lifestyle: This lifestyle choice should be used to enhance your relationship and marriage, not destroy it. A good and competent Master or Mistress will wish the same for you and your partner.
One advantage of having a Master or Mistress is to fulfill the Dominant role that either or both of you may have. Some also enjoy a level of humiliation attached to their own role in this lifestyle and that also can only be acommodated safely and properly by the use of a Competent Master or Mistress. And yes, I say competent because as in all things, many feel that if they yell or hollar or bluster or use force, they are a Master or Mistress. NOTHING could be farther from the truth. A Competent Master and a Competent Mistress have had years of involvement and have learned their craft. They realise and accept the responsibility for the safety and pleasure of their submissive(s) as much if not more than their own. Thus choose wisely.
As in all things in this blog, if you wish to contact Me for further assistance of any kind, Please do so via email to Sir.Strict@gmail.com
Enjoy your search.
I have stated on numerous occasions that this lifestyle is for, built by, controlled by, instituted by, and for the enjoyment of the couple involved. In other words, it is the couples responsibilitiy to figure out for themselves if they wish the 3rd party (or parties) to their relationship to be Dominant or not. Some may well wish their partner in this lifestyle to be a Dom or Domme who will guide, nurture, and use the couple as they see fit.
Remember this ONE guiding principal in the cuckold lifestyle: This lifestyle choice should be used to enhance your relationship and marriage, not destroy it. A good and competent Master or Mistress will wish the same for you and your partner.
One advantage of having a Master or Mistress is to fulfill the Dominant role that either or both of you may have. Some also enjoy a level of humiliation attached to their own role in this lifestyle and that also can only be acommodated safely and properly by the use of a Competent Master or Mistress. And yes, I say competent because as in all things, many feel that if they yell or hollar or bluster or use force, they are a Master or Mistress. NOTHING could be farther from the truth. A Competent Master and a Competent Mistress have had years of involvement and have learned their craft. They realise and accept the responsibility for the safety and pleasure of their submissive(s) as much if not more than their own. Thus choose wisely.
As in all things in this blog, if you wish to contact Me for further assistance of any kind, Please do so via email to Sir.Strict@gmail.com
Enjoy your search.
Monday, June 25, 2007
Why Use a Chat Messenger?
I have recently been asked why I use a chat messenger as well as a java based website. Mainly it is to discuss with those I train the various aspects they may be interested in learning, especially for those who cannot travel to take their training in person.
The different chat facilities vary in their operation and reliability and I will attempt to show you what I mean here.
A chat messenger allows you to stay in touch with others you may wish to converse with while out of the java chat rooms you may have encountered. Indeed, if you are reading My blog it is quite likely that W/we met in a java based chat room that you use in your web browser.
Many of them now also incorporate voice communications and video communications as well. Indeed, My chat client of choice is Yahoo Messenger, available from http://messenger.yahoo.com
I have tried MSN Messenger, found at http://get.live.com/messenger/overview,
Aim, found at http://www.aim.com/download.adp,
ICQ, found at http://www.icq.com/download/,
EyeBall Chat, found at http://www.eyeballchat.com/ ,
Meebo, found at found at http://wwwl.meebo.com/ ,
and Yahoo messenger, found at http://messenger.yahoo.com .
Though they all work, and though meebo allows you to connect to the other messenger clients as well, much of the functionality of Yahoo is lost when shared with other messengers. Thus, I suggest that Yahoo is the most stable and most enjoyable messenger software yet available and I suggest that you do your own research on them as well.
As I am not always in the chat room, Yahoo messenger also affords the ability of leaving offline messages which the recipient will get once they log on. When setting yours up it will ask you for an email address. You can give them an existing email address or the one Yahoo will offer you at the time of registration.
Keep in mind that these are all freeware and thus costs you nothing. They enable you to keep in touch, in private, with anyone you add to your list of contacts.
I hope to see you there.
Sir.Strict
The different chat facilities vary in their operation and reliability and I will attempt to show you what I mean here.
A chat messenger allows you to stay in touch with others you may wish to converse with while out of the java chat rooms you may have encountered. Indeed, if you are reading My blog it is quite likely that W/we met in a java based chat room that you use in your web browser.
Many of them now also incorporate voice communications and video communications as well. Indeed, My chat client of choice is Yahoo Messenger, available from http://messenger.yahoo.com
I have tried MSN Messenger, found at http://get.live.com/messenger/overview,
Aim, found at http://www.aim.com/download.adp,
ICQ, found at http://www.icq.com/download/,
EyeBall Chat, found at http://www.eyeballchat.com/ ,
Meebo, found at found at http://wwwl.meebo.com/ ,
and Yahoo messenger, found at http://messenger.yahoo.com .
Though they all work, and though meebo allows you to connect to the other messenger clients as well, much of the functionality of Yahoo is lost when shared with other messengers. Thus, I suggest that Yahoo is the most stable and most enjoyable messenger software yet available and I suggest that you do your own research on them as well.
As I am not always in the chat room, Yahoo messenger also affords the ability of leaving offline messages which the recipient will get once they log on. When setting yours up it will ask you for an email address. You can give them an existing email address or the one Yahoo will offer you at the time of registration.
Keep in mind that these are all freeware and thus costs you nothing. They enable you to keep in touch, in private, with anyone you add to your list of contacts.
I hope to see you there.
Sir.Strict
Monday, June 11, 2007
Location and other pertenant information
I have recently been asked by various couples to tell them who I am and what My training in this lifestyle entails. Thus, this post will hopefully clear a lot of that up.
Before I begin, I am a white Male Dominant, now aged 66 in June of 2007, who has been training couples in this lifestyle for over 27 years. That means I'm old - not dead - just old. It also means that this blog is based on 27 years experience in this lifestyle. Some others, Dominants and Trainers as well as so called Bulls, may not agree with My points of view, but they are My points of view and I thus state them here for all to see. If you disagree with them, start your own blog and state your views there.
I am located on what is known as the Gold Coast of Queensland, Australia. This is a sub-tropical environment and is also the vacation destination for much of Australia and many from around the world. With almost perfect weather (though we could use a little more rain occasionally) and the 35 miles of public, white sand, optional topless beach on the Coral Sea, and the many Theme Parks in this area (5 in less than 20 miles), and the ability of growing tropical fruit in abundance, this place is truly the mecca for vacationers. Look it up in any of the search engines and you will get an idea of what this is like.
Secondly, I've been asked what the charge is for training a couple in this lifestyle. The simple answer is - nothing. That's right - $0.00. Couples are required to pay for their transportation here, their hotel accommodation and their food once they are here, but I do not make money from this training. I do the training I do as a labor of love to the cuckold community and to ensure that ALL couples start out on the right foot.
During the initial phases of this training (see the contract later in this blog) The woman is given an opportunity first to discuss and talk out any concerns she may have about this lifestyle and any impact she feels it might have on her marriage, IN PRIVATE, with someone with 27 years experience in training couples, who has the knowledge to talk intelligently about it, as well as no ax to grind or hidden agenda to accomplish. Obviously I also do it from a 3rd party standpoint and thus am removed from your family, friends, work colleagues, etc. I can and do also give advice on this subject. Once that is achieved and she is comfortable with it, her training, and ultimately her husbands training (if he wishes to join in) is undertaken.
No one is forced, or coerced into ANYTHING at ANY TIME. This MUST be not only voluntary training in this lifestyle, but sought after as well, and unless I am assured of that, that both the male and female of the couple voluntarily wish this training and are NOT coerced in any way, I walk away. I am NOT going to "force your wife or partner" to take part, nor am I going to "lure her or entice her or seduce her" into the lifestyle just to satisfy your own desires. This lifestyle, I truly believe, is here to ENHANCE your marriage, not screw it up.
If you are still interested in this lifestyle and My training and philosophy, read on. If, at the end of that you wish to email Me to discuss training arrangements with Me, email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com and I will do what I can to assist you both. As I train couples reasonably often, it is necessary to book in advance for any training required. I will also, at that time, allow you to add My nick of Sir.Strict to your yahoo messenger to ensure that communication can be more readily and easily maintained.
I hope to hear from you soon. Be safe, well, and above all, happy.
Sir.Strict - the CuckCplTrainer
Before I begin, I am a white Male Dominant, now aged 66 in June of 2007, who has been training couples in this lifestyle for over 27 years. That means I'm old - not dead - just old. It also means that this blog is based on 27 years experience in this lifestyle. Some others, Dominants and Trainers as well as so called Bulls, may not agree with My points of view, but they are My points of view and I thus state them here for all to see. If you disagree with them, start your own blog and state your views there.
I am located on what is known as the Gold Coast of Queensland, Australia. This is a sub-tropical environment and is also the vacation destination for much of Australia and many from around the world. With almost perfect weather (though we could use a little more rain occasionally) and the 35 miles of public, white sand, optional topless beach on the Coral Sea, and the many Theme Parks in this area (5 in less than 20 miles), and the ability of growing tropical fruit in abundance, this place is truly the mecca for vacationers. Look it up in any of the search engines and you will get an idea of what this is like.
Secondly, I've been asked what the charge is for training a couple in this lifestyle. The simple answer is - nothing. That's right - $0.00. Couples are required to pay for their transportation here, their hotel accommodation and their food once they are here, but I do not make money from this training. I do the training I do as a labor of love to the cuckold community and to ensure that ALL couples start out on the right foot.
During the initial phases of this training (see the contract later in this blog) The woman is given an opportunity first to discuss and talk out any concerns she may have about this lifestyle and any impact she feels it might have on her marriage, IN PRIVATE, with someone with 27 years experience in training couples, who has the knowledge to talk intelligently about it, as well as no ax to grind or hidden agenda to accomplish. Obviously I also do it from a 3rd party standpoint and thus am removed from your family, friends, work colleagues, etc. I can and do also give advice on this subject. Once that is achieved and she is comfortable with it, her training, and ultimately her husbands training (if he wishes to join in) is undertaken.
No one is forced, or coerced into ANYTHING at ANY TIME. This MUST be not only voluntary training in this lifestyle, but sought after as well, and unless I am assured of that, that both the male and female of the couple voluntarily wish this training and are NOT coerced in any way, I walk away. I am NOT going to "force your wife or partner" to take part, nor am I going to "lure her or entice her or seduce her" into the lifestyle just to satisfy your own desires. This lifestyle, I truly believe, is here to ENHANCE your marriage, not screw it up.
If you are still interested in this lifestyle and My training and philosophy, read on. If, at the end of that you wish to email Me to discuss training arrangements with Me, email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com and I will do what I can to assist you both. As I train couples reasonably often, it is necessary to book in advance for any training required. I will also, at that time, allow you to add My nick of Sir.Strict to your yahoo messenger to ensure that communication can be more readily and easily maintained.
I hope to hear from you soon. Be safe, well, and above all, happy.
Sir.Strict - the CuckCplTrainer
Wednesday, June 6, 2007
Contact
For some reason I seem unable to change My email address in this blog so I am posting it here in hopes that those wishing to contact Me can do so with ease.
You may, if you wish, contact Me at sir.strict@gmail.com I know the address on the blog is cuckold.dom@gmail.com but I have pretty much ceased to use that account as the name gave the wrong impression - namely that I am also a cuckold. I am not. I have trained cuckold couples for over 27 years now and am not, Myself, a cuckold, but rather a trainer and Dominant Master.
I have trained well in excess of 40 couples in the past 27 years so what I write in My blog on this subject is the result of experience, not some masturbatory fantasy.
I also use yahoo messenger for online contact. If I know you I will let you know the nickname to use on that service to contact Me.
Thank you for reading this series of posts. If I can be of assistance in furthering your knowledge of the cuckold and cuckoldress lifestyle, then I am happy. Note: The training I offer in person here on the Gold Coast of Australia is FREE OF CHARGE. I expect you to pay for your hotel acommodation and food, and travel to and from the Gold Coast, but that is all. I do this to try and enhance the cuckold/cuckoldress experience, not to make money from it.
The lifestyle should, always, enhance your chosen path in marriage, not dissolve that marriage. If you feel it would harm your marriage, then this lifestyle is NOT for you.
Be safe and well.
Sir.Strict (aka the CuckCplTrainer)
You may, if you wish, contact Me at sir.strict@gmail.com I know the address on the blog is cuckold.dom@gmail.com but I have pretty much ceased to use that account as the name gave the wrong impression - namely that I am also a cuckold. I am not. I have trained cuckold couples for over 27 years now and am not, Myself, a cuckold, but rather a trainer and Dominant Master.
I have trained well in excess of 40 couples in the past 27 years so what I write in My blog on this subject is the result of experience, not some masturbatory fantasy.
I also use yahoo messenger for online contact. If I know you I will let you know the nickname to use on that service to contact Me.
Thank you for reading this series of posts. If I can be of assistance in furthering your knowledge of the cuckold and cuckoldress lifestyle, then I am happy. Note: The training I offer in person here on the Gold Coast of Australia is FREE OF CHARGE. I expect you to pay for your hotel acommodation and food, and travel to and from the Gold Coast, but that is all. I do this to try and enhance the cuckold/cuckoldress experience, not to make money from it.
The lifestyle should, always, enhance your chosen path in marriage, not dissolve that marriage. If you feel it would harm your marriage, then this lifestyle is NOT for you.
Be safe and well.
Sir.Strict (aka the CuckCplTrainer)
Monday, February 12, 2007
Cuckold Humiliation or Not?
The discussion of humiliation of a cuckold is legion in size and complexity mainly because NO two people are the same. It is therefore again, necessary to discuss with the cuckold what his wants, needs, and desires are. One might find that where the other participants, including the Dom/Domme thought that ALL cuckolds wish to be humiliated and are bisexual in nature, is a vastly mistaken assumption.
Some cuckolds do wish to fulfill their bisexual fantasy and be used to provide clean-up duties on their partner and on the other male/female participants. Some wish to also provide “fluffer” (taken from the porn industry where potential porn stars suck the male participants to a level of hardness so that they can perform in front of the camera) duties for anyone chosen to have sex with their cuckoldress. Some wish to be verbally humiliated by being referred to by their partner, their Dom/Domme, or other male and female participants who will use their partner for sex, as “wimp, cocksucker, tiny dick, incompetent, inadequate, cum-sucker, butt-fucker, etc” and the list goes on and on. Some wish to also be used by their cuckoldress or Dom to be taken anally, to suck anyone that the Dom specifies, to provide ANY sexual act asked for, as well as provide cleaning, shaving, dressing, and transport for their cuckoldress (and thus, to some, their Domme) to and from use by her lovers or her Master/Mistress. Others will desire and indeed, need to have their sexual access restricted, not only to their partner but to all other forms of sexual gratification including masturbation. “Cock Cages” are most often used for this humiliation.
However, some cuckolds simply wish to watch their cuckoldress being used, and to actually ‘join in’ and help provide more sex for her (in the form of providing their cock for oral pleasure from her while she is being serviced by her lover(s) or Dom) and some desire to simply photograph her in the throes of sexual enjoyment with whomever is using her sexually at any given time.
So again, there is no ‘hard and fast’ rule here. The competent Dom, and indeed the cuckold couple, should consider all of these as possibilities and come jointly to a conclusion about the participation level and access to each other, their partner or cuckoldress/cuckold or their Dom/Domme.
Do NOT forget that the Dom/Domme also has wants, needs, and desires and these MUST also be addressed and added to the mix. If communication, true communication, is established, then you will have a successful relationship to build on for ALL participants. Just be totally and completely honest in your discussions and negotiation with each other and you can’t lose. And remember, based on the 20 years plus real life experience I have had, it is not only your right to have this discussion with your partner AND your Dom/Domme, if it is not provided you may well have the wrong partner and/or the wrong Dom/Domme. Without everyone knowing what they are doing is what they all mutually wish to be done by having open honest communication with each other, the relationship is on quicksand to start with and will ultimately fail.
Thank you for reading, and don’t forget to pass on this blog to anyone you think it may help. I can also be contacted via email on sir.strict@gmail.com I also exclusively use Yahoo Messenger as an offline chat client. Email Me with your messenger nick if you wish to be added to My list of contacts for chat.
Sir.Strict
Some cuckolds do wish to fulfill their bisexual fantasy and be used to provide clean-up duties on their partner and on the other male/female participants. Some wish to also provide “fluffer” (taken from the porn industry where potential porn stars suck the male participants to a level of hardness so that they can perform in front of the camera) duties for anyone chosen to have sex with their cuckoldress. Some wish to be verbally humiliated by being referred to by their partner, their Dom/Domme, or other male and female participants who will use their partner for sex, as “wimp, cocksucker, tiny dick, incompetent, inadequate, cum-sucker, butt-fucker, etc” and the list goes on and on. Some wish to also be used by their cuckoldress or Dom to be taken anally, to suck anyone that the Dom specifies, to provide ANY sexual act asked for, as well as provide cleaning, shaving, dressing, and transport for their cuckoldress (and thus, to some, their Domme) to and from use by her lovers or her Master/Mistress. Others will desire and indeed, need to have their sexual access restricted, not only to their partner but to all other forms of sexual gratification including masturbation. “Cock Cages” are most often used for this humiliation.
However, some cuckolds simply wish to watch their cuckoldress being used, and to actually ‘join in’ and help provide more sex for her (in the form of providing their cock for oral pleasure from her while she is being serviced by her lover(s) or Dom) and some desire to simply photograph her in the throes of sexual enjoyment with whomever is using her sexually at any given time.
So again, there is no ‘hard and fast’ rule here. The competent Dom, and indeed the cuckold couple, should consider all of these as possibilities and come jointly to a conclusion about the participation level and access to each other, their partner or cuckoldress/cuckold or their Dom/Domme.
Do NOT forget that the Dom/Domme also has wants, needs, and desires and these MUST also be addressed and added to the mix. If communication, true communication, is established, then you will have a successful relationship to build on for ALL participants. Just be totally and completely honest in your discussions and negotiation with each other and you can’t lose. And remember, based on the 20 years plus real life experience I have had, it is not only your right to have this discussion with your partner AND your Dom/Domme, if it is not provided you may well have the wrong partner and/or the wrong Dom/Domme. Without everyone knowing what they are doing is what they all mutually wish to be done by having open honest communication with each other, the relationship is on quicksand to start with and will ultimately fail.
Thank you for reading, and don’t forget to pass on this blog to anyone you think it may help. I can also be contacted via email on sir.strict@gmail.com I also exclusively use Yahoo Messenger as an offline chat client. Email Me with your messenger nick if you wish to be added to My list of contacts for chat.
Sir.Strict
Cuckoldress Humiliation or not?
I can’t count the number of times I have been asked by a cuckoldress or a potential one if humiliation is a natural part of the Dom/sub Dom/cuckoldress cuckold/cuckoldress lifestyle. My answer is always the same which states “If you wish it to be, then yes it is. If, however, you wish it NOT to be, then that is where it should go.”
There is a mistaken belief in the cuckold community that EVERY cuckoldress wishes to be humiliated as well. The reality is that some do, some don’t, and if you as a Dom or Domme, or a cuckold for that matter, don’t find out which it is with your particular sub/slave/partner, then your relationship is off to a bad start to begin with. I say that it is a mistaken belief, and I stand by that statement, after training true cuckoldress women and slut females (and males) who want to expand their own sexual horizons, and bring their partner along for the ride.
Some women LOVE humiliation and see it not only as something they desire, but something that is an integral part and a necessity of their own cuckold lifestyle. Possibly it is because some also feel - based on early religious beliefs - that it is the ‘punishment’ they must have for enjoying sex with others than their marital partner. Some simply love the feeling of being humiliated (verbally – as is being called names such as slut, bitch, whore, cum-bucket, cum-slut, or anything else their partner or Dom desire to call her) while others want a more ‘public’ display of their humiliation (being forced to wear sluttish or revealing clothing in public, or being made to perform sexually with others present, or being ‘shared’ with others at her Dom’s command, etc). There are NO hard and fast rules here just as there aren’t in ANY relationship. Each one is different and based entirely on the individuals involved.
Other women have NO desire to be humiliated in ANY sense. They most often see their open sexuality as something to be proud of, something to show to the world, something to use to enhance the pleasure of their Dom or cuckold partner. It can also be simply because they enjoy sex in most, if not all, the ways possible to enjoy it, and don’t feel that they need to be humiliated in any way to achieve that level of enjoyment for themselves or their partners.
So again, it is imperative that ALL of the participants in a cuckold relationship need to engage in open minded, no holes barred, honest participatory discussion, and state what they need from this different relationship. It is, after all, very different from what society tells us we are all supposed to be like. We should all be proud of what we have and enjoy it to the full, be it total humiliation or simply being the best sexual partner (for your cuckold or your Dom/Domme) possible.
Thank you for reading and if you wish to contact Me email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com or ask Me to add you to My yahoo messenger list of contacts by providing Me with your screen name there.
And please pass this on to anyone you think could benefit from the advice contained herein. Thank you.
Sir.Strict
There is a mistaken belief in the cuckold community that EVERY cuckoldress wishes to be humiliated as well. The reality is that some do, some don’t, and if you as a Dom or Domme, or a cuckold for that matter, don’t find out which it is with your particular sub/slave/partner, then your relationship is off to a bad start to begin with. I say that it is a mistaken belief, and I stand by that statement, after training true cuckoldress women and slut females (and males) who want to expand their own sexual horizons, and bring their partner along for the ride.
Some women LOVE humiliation and see it not only as something they desire, but something that is an integral part and a necessity of their own cuckold lifestyle. Possibly it is because some also feel - based on early religious beliefs - that it is the ‘punishment’ they must have for enjoying sex with others than their marital partner. Some simply love the feeling of being humiliated (verbally – as is being called names such as slut, bitch, whore, cum-bucket, cum-slut, or anything else their partner or Dom desire to call her) while others want a more ‘public’ display of their humiliation (being forced to wear sluttish or revealing clothing in public, or being made to perform sexually with others present, or being ‘shared’ with others at her Dom’s command, etc). There are NO hard and fast rules here just as there aren’t in ANY relationship. Each one is different and based entirely on the individuals involved.
Other women have NO desire to be humiliated in ANY sense. They most often see their open sexuality as something to be proud of, something to show to the world, something to use to enhance the pleasure of their Dom or cuckold partner. It can also be simply because they enjoy sex in most, if not all, the ways possible to enjoy it, and don’t feel that they need to be humiliated in any way to achieve that level of enjoyment for themselves or their partners.
So again, it is imperative that ALL of the participants in a cuckold relationship need to engage in open minded, no holes barred, honest participatory discussion, and state what they need from this different relationship. It is, after all, very different from what society tells us we are all supposed to be like. We should all be proud of what we have and enjoy it to the full, be it total humiliation or simply being the best sexual partner (for your cuckold or your Dom/Domme) possible.
Thank you for reading and if you wish to contact Me email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com or ask Me to add you to My yahoo messenger list of contacts by providing Me with your screen name there.
And please pass this on to anyone you think could benefit from the advice contained herein. Thank you.
Sir.Strict
Negotiation
In a cuckold relationship those with little or no real life experience think that there is no real negotiation either between the cuckoldress and her cuckold, or between either/both of them and a good Dom. Noting that I said “a good Dom”, and based on 20 years plus real life experience in this lifestyle, nothing could be farther from the truth.
Communication is the keystone to any successful relationship, be it vanilla, cuckold, Dom/sub, or any other combination one can think of. When any relationship is in it’s infancy it is imperative that meaningful and honest communication between participants and potential participants takes place to ensure that everyone is on the same page, or, at least know what page each participant is on. The same holds true in any cuckold relationship as well, and a competent Dom needs to assess what the couple (or cuckoldress or cuckold) are/is looking for to enhance their own existence. If (and this can be a VERY BIG IF) the wants, needs, and desires of all of the participants mesh in some meaningful way, then ALL will be happy with the outcome. If they don’t at least you know from the start that it isn’t what you want.
Thus, I cannot stress enough the necessity to discuss with any submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold couple what their particular desires, wants, needs, and wishes are. You may well find that they, in some ways, mirror those of a vanilla relationship – with the added spice that this particular kind of relationship can bring.
If you are a Dom or Domme, sit your submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold individual or couple down and discuss with them openly what they want the relationship to be and what they see as their own role to fulfill their own desires is. Also don’t be afraid to state openly what YOU need as well from the relationship. Then, and ONLY then, will you know if you have the basis to continue on with a good, well planned, well thought out relationship which will be to everyone’s benefit and enjoyment.
If you are a cuckoldress or a cuckold, the same advice applies. Ask your Dom/Domme or partner to discuss with you exactly what your relationship should contain and not contain to ensure it is built on solid ground and will last. It is your right to know where everyone stands so ask for this consultation. If it is not freely given, you have the wrong Dom/Domme or the wrong partner.
This may be and sound blunt, and it is – purposefully so. It is based on a lot of real life experience over a lot of years, not fantasy, and though it may not be what you “wish” it were, I can assure you it is the truth as I have lived it. Ignore it at your own peril.
I shall write more to explain aspects of the cuckoldress and cuckold “wish list” that many may not have considered, and yet are prime necessities to those involved. Thank you for reading and please, pass on this site to any you think could benefit from it.
Sir.Strict
Communication is the keystone to any successful relationship, be it vanilla, cuckold, Dom/sub, or any other combination one can think of. When any relationship is in it’s infancy it is imperative that meaningful and honest communication between participants and potential participants takes place to ensure that everyone is on the same page, or, at least know what page each participant is on. The same holds true in any cuckold relationship as well, and a competent Dom needs to assess what the couple (or cuckoldress or cuckold) are/is looking for to enhance their own existence. If (and this can be a VERY BIG IF) the wants, needs, and desires of all of the participants mesh in some meaningful way, then ALL will be happy with the outcome. If they don’t at least you know from the start that it isn’t what you want.
Thus, I cannot stress enough the necessity to discuss with any submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold couple what their particular desires, wants, needs, and wishes are. You may well find that they, in some ways, mirror those of a vanilla relationship – with the added spice that this particular kind of relationship can bring.
If you are a Dom or Domme, sit your submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold individual or couple down and discuss with them openly what they want the relationship to be and what they see as their own role to fulfill their own desires is. Also don’t be afraid to state openly what YOU need as well from the relationship. Then, and ONLY then, will you know if you have the basis to continue on with a good, well planned, well thought out relationship which will be to everyone’s benefit and enjoyment.
If you are a cuckoldress or a cuckold, the same advice applies. Ask your Dom/Domme or partner to discuss with you exactly what your relationship should contain and not contain to ensure it is built on solid ground and will last. It is your right to know where everyone stands so ask for this consultation. If it is not freely given, you have the wrong Dom/Domme or the wrong partner.
This may be and sound blunt, and it is – purposefully so. It is based on a lot of real life experience over a lot of years, not fantasy, and though it may not be what you “wish” it were, I can assure you it is the truth as I have lived it. Ignore it at your own peril.
I shall write more to explain aspects of the cuckoldress and cuckold “wish list” that many may not have considered, and yet are prime necessities to those involved. Thank you for reading and please, pass on this site to any you think could benefit from it.
Sir.Strict
Tuesday, January 9, 2007
Repost of In Person Contract
Hello and welcome back.
When I train a cuckold couple that training usually is 2 weeks in length and takes place on the Gold Coast of Queensland Australia. I have trained to a limited degree, couples online but obviously the results obtainable in a face to face training is unsurpassed.
So dear reader - remember that this "contract" is between Myself as the trainer and the cuckold couple, or cuckoldress or cuckold involved. Do not take the dates etc as being something you must do. This is for your interest and understanding only:
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Below is a description of what I, as a Cuckold Couple Trainer, do in person, how I do it, how it is run, and what you need to do to have your cuckoldress or yourself as the cuckold trained to become a slut by Me. You are to read it, and then return it to Me with the words "I agree" or "I have done as told" attached to each section of this contract.
You will then make any and all travel arrangements to arrive at Coolangatta airport on the dates specified, and will contact the hotel I use and make your partners as well as your reservations and pay for them in advance. Note: I do NOT have a financial interest in this or any other hotel. I simply have found that it is clean, well cared for, and has a lovely outlook over the sea, with nice walking areas surrounding it as well.
Note: NO ONE will be allowed to sexually use your slut/partner until you are present to witness it and then it will ONLY take place at his/her/your combined request. The description and contract follow:
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1. First of all I do NOT send photos of the males or females I use to train My sluts to ANYONE. I have various males and females that I use to assist Me in training sluts and I and they, will NOT be "coaxed" into ANYTHING so unprofessional and childish as sending cock picks for you to see. If you want to see a photo of a male cock, do a web search for one.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
2. I have ONE black male that I call on to service those who wish it, but ONLY ONE. This is not a "Takeaway" where you choose how many orders of "black" or "white" meat to have, with a side order of "a bisexual female". I, and ONLY I, will choose who is allowed to train and use your slut after her initial training with you present, NO one else. I will consider all requests and, because I know the people involved, then make that decision based on My knowledge of you both.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
3. The fact that you have to travel to the Gold Coast is not My responsibility. This is where it happens in safety and comfort, it is where I supply the training and sex in safety and comfort AND the ability for you to watch as other males (and occasionally females) use her/him and give her/him the orgasms she/he so rightly deserves, NOT anywhere else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
4. Your wife/partner will be required to be here "On Her Own" for 5 DAYS BEFORE YOU get to join her and see anything. Her training will be comprehensive and complete (and no, she will not be allowed to have intercourse with anyone until you are present).
Her initial training, which is by Me alone, is necessary to psychologically train her to be a competent slut for you in future. That training will be done exclusively by Me and is mainly composed of giving her the opportunity to discuss her fears of involvement in this lifestyle, as well as her wants, needs, and desires, without outside interference (including you) not allowing her to express her true feelings. I do not "convince" anyone, but I do "allow them to critically look at those questions with a somewhat disinterested older man who has helped others", away from the pressures of family, friends, and work colleagues.
Also know that I WILL NOT HAVE INTERCOURSE WITH YOUR WIFE - EVER, not before, during and/or not after training. I do not have intercourse with any slut Myself. I will, however, be responsible for her oral training to ensure she is also an accomplished oral practitioner for you and others to enjoy. Because of the nature of the training no one, including you, will be allowed to be present during this initial 5 days of training. Once it is finished, and she is ready to try taking on other men for you, then, and ONLY then will you or anyone else be allowed to be present.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
5. Therefore, IF you are serious, and IF you wish Me to proceed, you will book her into the "HotelNameWithheld" (near Surfers Paradise - see the hotel website supplied at the time) which is a medium priced, clean, nice hotel where she (and ultimately you) will stay. This is where all of the training and you watching her being pleasured and brought to crashing orgasm again and again by other men (and women if she wishes) as she should be, will take place. Depending on the season (see Make A Booking on the website) the room rate is $$$$ per night and you can, and will, book and pay for the entire stay online and then inform Me you have done so.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
I have done as told: signed - (male ) (female )
The booking is to be for 10 NIGHTS MINIMUM (longer if you wish - please discuss with Me), beginning on any Monday in what ever month and date W/we agree on. And, before you wonder, No, I get nothing at all from the hotel. I simply have found that it provides the environment I need to successfully train ANY slut for ANY husband to use or to watch others use.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
6. IF arrangements are made to arrive on a Monday morning, I will personally endeavor to pick your wife/partner up from the Gold Coast (Coolangatta) airport (and thus require her flight details well in advance) and transport her/him to their hotel on arrival. Her psychological training, with ME exclusively, will commence on her arrival. You may join her on the following Saturday but NOT until then. You will make your own way to the hotel from the airport. The other males (and/or females) will be brought in one at a time initially if asked for, starting on the Monday following your arrival with you present.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
7. You will be allowed to photograph her being used by these men (and women if that is also arranged) if you BOTH agree that you wish photographic evidence of this play, but you are NOT allowed to show the men's or women's faces who use her at ANY time. ALL photographs become your property - but will be vetted by Me to ensure that the above is complied with. You may also participate in what ever manner W/we have agreed to with her male studs. Indeed if you wish, you will also be allowed to suck the males to make them hard to start with, and you may also suck them clean once they have finished using her. You may also be allowed to suck any sperm or ejaculate they leave in her when they have finished with her. If it is your desire, you will also be photographed servicing these men.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
NOTE: Those are the terms. There is NO change allowed to this timetable of events. I have found, over the past 27 years I have provided this service for sluts and their cuckolds, that it is necessary and the one type of training that works to achieve the results required. I take pride in My work, and rely on My experience in training others. Thus I do NOT take kindly to being questioned. So make up your mind now, and get back to Me within the next Three Days with your agreement or your non-acceptance.
If you do not agree you are back on your own and you will need to find someone else to fulfil your fantasy. History has shown that this is not easily accomplished in safety, comfort, and with complete satisfaction. This is what I do, and I provide the safety (physically as well as STD and Sexual safety) that most others do not.
I await your answer within THREE days from the sending of this information to you.
Sir.Strict - THE CuckCplTrainer
Friday, January 5, 2007
The so-called "Online Only" contract
Hello all.
There are times when physical one on one contact is not possible. IN those cases I have also devised a method of training which this contract will explain. Read it but remember, it is for those who desire training with this Old One.
Thank you for your interest.
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Below is a description of what I, as a Cuckold Slut Trainer, do in online training, how I do it, how it is run, and what you need to do to be trained or to have your cuckoldress trained as a slut by Me in an online only environment. You are to read it, and then return it to Me with the words "I agree" or "I have done as instructed" attached to each section of this contract.
You will then make any and all computer purchases or downloads necessary and install them as required. You will then inform Me that you have done so and are ready to participate in this training.
Know this: I consider Myself, because of My 26 years experience of training sluts online, a professional slut trainer of both females and males. Thus you will read and comply with every part of the following or I will discontinue communication with you. I do NOT play games online, I train, and I will not waste My time with players and fakes.
The description and contract follow:
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1. First of all I do NOT send photos of My sluts nor ANYONE I have ever trained to ANYONE. I will NOT be "coaxed" into Anything so unprofessional and childish as sending cock picks for you to see. If you want to see a photo of a male cock, do a web search for one.
2. I am not black, I am white. This is not a "Takeaway" where you choose how many orders of "black" or "white" meat to have, with a side order of " * * * * * ". I, and ONLY I, will choose what your training will entail, NO one else.
3. Your online participation will be required when I say, and in what ever manner I say.
4. Much of My training is through the use of yahoo messenger, a headset mic, and a webcam. If you do not have Messenger, download it and install it from http://messenger.yahoo.com/and add Sir_Strict_Aus to your list of contacts. Copy and paste that into your messenger to ensure that it is entered correctly.
5. If you cannot use Messenger (and though many have said they can't I have yet to see ANY computer that can't use it, and I lectured in computer use and the Internet in two different universities in two different countries for over 20 years - so trust Me, I've seen them all) apparently MSN will now "talk" to Yahoo messenger. You may attempt to add Me at yahoo messenger in the same way in your MSN client, but know that if it does not work, you will be required to use yahoo messenger as well.
6. If you do not have a webcam, and/or the ability to hear sounds and speak through some kind of microphone to Me, you will be required to purchase them and install them. As stated above, that is how I do the majority of My training, online through the use of a webcam and a voice device. I recommend the use of a headset mic (headphones with a small microphone that sits alongside your mouth) so that I can "talk" to you over the internet as well as "see" you over the internet. If you don't like using these devices and thus will not obtain and use them, then find someone else to provide your training. This is the ONLY way I will provide training for you.
7. Therefore, IF you are serious, and IF you wish Me to proceed, you will obtain anything I have mentioned above, install it, add Me to your list of contacts, and then inform Me you have done so.
8. I will personally tailor your training to your particular needs. If you are a single individual you will do as you are told by Me and you will comply with any "exercises" I give you to complete. If you are a couple, you will both comply with what I tell you to do. Initially I would prefer that you are both trained individually online, though this may change as your training proceeds to training sessions involving both of you online at the same time.
9. You will communicate in some way (email/message on yahoo messenger) with Me every single day until your training is complete. Your message need not be long, but should inform Me that you are well and when W/we will next continue with your training.
10. I am not here as someone to "get you off". I am here to train you to be a competent slut (female or male) and I will achieve that if you follow My directives. If you have a compliant partner, they are to also be informed of My training with you, and I will wish to speak to them as well to ensure that you
a) have permission for your training and/or
b) are encouraged, when I am not online with you, to fulfil your training as directed. In this way your training will become a part of your normal life and you will ultimately reap the benefits more fully.
NOTE: Those are the terms. There is NO change allowed to this timetable or content of events. I have found, over the past 26 years I have provided this service for sluts and their cuckolds, that it is necessary to be done in this manner, and is the one type of training that works to achieve the results required.
I take pride in My work, and rely on My experience in training others. Thus I do NOT take kindly to being questioned. So make up your mind now, and get back to Me within the next Three Days with your aggrement or your non-acceptance.
If you do not agree and accept fully all of the provisions stated above, you are back on your own and you will need to find someone else to fulfil your fantasy. History has shown that this is not easily accomplished in safety, comfort, and with complete satisfaction. This is what I do, and I provide the safety online that most others do not.
I await your answer within THREE days from the sending of this information to you.
Sir.Strict - THE CuckCplTrainer
You will then make any and all computer purchases or downloads necessary and install them as required. You will then inform Me that you have done so and are ready to participate in this training.
Know this: I consider Myself, because of My 26 years experience of training sluts online, a professional slut trainer of both females and males. Thus you will read and comply with every part of the following or I will discontinue communication with you. I do NOT play games online, I train, and I will not waste My time with players and fakes.
The description and contract follow:
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1. First of all I do NOT send photos of My sluts nor ANYONE I have ever trained to ANYONE. I will NOT be "coaxed" into Anything so unprofessional and childish as sending cock picks for you to see. If you want to see a photo of a male cock, do a web search for one.
2. I am not black, I am white. This is not a "Takeaway" where you choose how many orders of "black" or "white" meat to have, with a side order of " * * * * * ". I, and ONLY I, will choose what your training will entail, NO one else.
3. Your online participation will be required when I say, and in what ever manner I say.
4. Much of My training is through the use of yahoo messenger, a headset mic, and a webcam. If you do not have Messenger, download it and install it from http://messenger.yahoo.com/and add Sir_Strict_Aus to your list of contacts. Copy and paste that into your messenger to ensure that it is entered correctly.
5. If you cannot use Messenger (and though many have said they can't I have yet to see ANY computer that can't use it, and I lectured in computer use and the Internet in two different universities in two different countries for over 20 years - so trust Me, I've seen them all) apparently MSN will now "talk" to Yahoo messenger. You may attempt to add Me at yahoo messenger in the same way in your MSN client, but know that if it does not work, you will be required to use yahoo messenger as well.
6. If you do not have a webcam, and/or the ability to hear sounds and speak through some kind of microphone to Me, you will be required to purchase them and install them. As stated above, that is how I do the majority of My training, online through the use of a webcam and a voice device. I recommend the use of a headset mic (headphones with a small microphone that sits alongside your mouth) so that I can "talk" to you over the internet as well as "see" you over the internet. If you don't like using these devices and thus will not obtain and use them, then find someone else to provide your training. This is the ONLY way I will provide training for you.
7. Therefore, IF you are serious, and IF you wish Me to proceed, you will obtain anything I have mentioned above, install it, add Me to your list of contacts, and then inform Me you have done so.
8. I will personally tailor your training to your particular needs. If you are a single individual you will do as you are told by Me and you will comply with any "exercises" I give you to complete. If you are a couple, you will both comply with what I tell you to do. Initially I would prefer that you are both trained individually online, though this may change as your training proceeds to training sessions involving both of you online at the same time.
9. You will communicate in some way (email/message on yahoo messenger) with Me every single day until your training is complete. Your message need not be long, but should inform Me that you are well and when W/we will next continue with your training.
10. I am not here as someone to "get you off". I am here to train you to be a competent slut (female or male) and I will achieve that if you follow My directives. If you have a compliant partner, they are to also be informed of My training with you, and I will wish to speak to them as well to ensure that you
a) have permission for your training and/or
b) are encouraged, when I am not online with you, to fulfil your training as directed. In this way your training will become a part of your normal life and you will ultimately reap the benefits more fully.
NOTE: Those are the terms. There is NO change allowed to this timetable or content of events. I have found, over the past 26 years I have provided this service for sluts and their cuckolds, that it is necessary to be done in this manner, and is the one type of training that works to achieve the results required.
I take pride in My work, and rely on My experience in training others. Thus I do NOT take kindly to being questioned. So make up your mind now, and get back to Me within the next Three Days with your aggrement or your non-acceptance.
If you do not agree and accept fully all of the provisions stated above, you are back on your own and you will need to find someone else to fulfil your fantasy. History has shown that this is not easily accomplished in safety, comfort, and with complete satisfaction. This is what I do, and I provide the safety online that most others do not.
I await your answer within THREE days from the sending of this information to you.
Sir.Strict - THE CuckCplTrainer
The Necessity for Contracts
Hello and welcome back.
When I train a cuckold couple that training usually is 2 weeks in length and takes place on the Gold Coast of Queensland Australia. I have trained to a limited degree, couples online but obviously the results obtainable in a face to face training is unsurpassed.
So dear reader - remember that this "contract" is between Myself as the trainer and the cuckold couple, or cuckoldress or cuckold involved. Do not take the dates etc as being something you must do. It is for your interest and understanding only:
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Below is a description of what I, as a Cuckold Slut Trainer, do in person, how I do it, how it is run, and what you need to do to have your cuckoldress trained as a slut by Me. You are to read it, and then return it to Me with the words "I agree" or "I have done as told" attached to each section of this contract.
You will then make any and all travel arrangements to arrive at Coolangatta airport on the dates specified, and will contact the hotel I use and make your partners as well as your reservations and pay for them in advance.
Next you will IMMEDIATELY inform Me of the detals of the arrangements you have made so that I may inform any Male or Female training assistants of their need, in the hopes that they will be free to accommodate any training or use to fuck your slut that is required. These are very busy people and are not always available. Thus it is imperative that as soon as you have made arrangements, that you inform Me of them so that I can contact and book them.
Note: NO ONE will be allowed to fuck your slut/partner until you are present to witness it. The description and contract follow:
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1. First of all I do NOT send photos of the males or females I use to train My sluts to ANYONE. I have various males and females that I use to assist Me in training sluts and I and they, will NOT be "coaxed" into ANYTHING so unprofessional and childish as sending cock picks for you to see. If you want to see a photo of a male cock, do a web search for one.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
2. I have ONE black male that I call on to service those who wish it, but ONLY ONE. This is not a "Takeaway" where you choose how many orders of "black" or "white" meat to have, with a side order of "a bisexual female". I, and ONLY I, will choose who is allowed to fuck and use your slut after her initial training with you present, NO one else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
3. The fact that you have to travel to the Gold Coast is not My responsibility. This is where it happens in safety and comfort, it is where I supply the training and sex in safety and comfort AND the ability for you to watch as other males (and occasionally females) use her and give her the orgasms she so rightly deserves, NOT anywhere else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
3. The fact that you have to travel to the Gold Coast is not My responsibility. This is where it happens in safety and comfort, it is where I supply the training and sex in safety and comfort AND the ability for you to watch as other males (and occasionally females) use her and give her the orgasms she so rightly deserves, NOT anywhere else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
4. Your wife/partner will be required to be here "On Her Own" for 5 DAYS BEFORE YOU get to join her and see anything. Her training will be comprehensive and complete (and no, she will not be fucked by anyone until you are present). Her initial training by Me alone is necessary to psychologically train her to be a competent slut for you in future. That training will be done exclusively by Me.
Also know that I WILL NOT FUCK YOUR WIFE - EVER, not during or after training. I do not fuck any slut Myself. I will be responsible for her oral training however to ensure she is also an accomplished oral slut for you. Because of the nature of the training no one, including you, will be allowed to be present during this initial 5 days of training. Once it is finished, and she is ready to try fucking other men for you, then, and ONLY then will you or anyone else be allowed to be present.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
5. Therefore, IF you are serious, and IF you wish Me to proceed, you will book her into the *Name withheld in the interest of security* Hotel in Southport, Queensland (next to Surfers Paradise - see
Monday, December 18, 2006
More Varied Questions
Hello and welcome back to My blog.
I have been asked to comment on a few issues by various people and would like to do so now.
My experience has shown Me that the males involved with their partners in this lifestyle are usually highly sexual individuals, thinking about sex, wanting sex, and wanting all those around them to want as much sex as they do, literally all the time. In such cases, the male may "mentally" or "emotionally" enlist the aid of their partner in the fulfilment of this "fantasy" and this way of life. The act of having sex with someone other than one's spouse can, for instance:
a) be a fulfilment of the "partner in total sexual enjoyment" thought pattern.
b) be seen to be "naughty" and thus of immense sexual turn-on for some.
The single couple joining in the cuckold mix, definitely does exist, and probably more often than one assumes.
And, like others, it may simply be a hedonistic way to experience pleasure, both in a heterosexual and, for some homosexual or bisexual way.
What ever the reasons behind the single couple involving themselves in this lifestyle, their involvement is as valid as any other participants and their reasons are equally valid for themselves as well.
Friends, though I have said this before, I cannot emphasise enough the absolute necessity for open honest communication between ANY couple who find themselves contemplating joining this wonderful exciting vibrant lifestyle. Keep that communication open always, and free flowing between the participants and the couple can do naught but enjoy their experience in the cuckold way of life.
Couple that with:
The short answer is yes, but relatively few. I feel this to actually be unfortunate, simply because when it is practiced this way, normally ONLY the male knows what is going on, and it is sometimes years (if ever) before they are honest enough with their female partners to disclose this truth; that they have sex with other women (or males).
And a final note: If you wish to explore this but are afraid that your partner will leave you if you are honest with them, ensure you have a good, well recommended, professional sexual or psychological councillor (possibly even a marriage councillor) present to ensure that no "ruptures" take place in your relationship but that adequate measure are in place to ensure that communication rather than accusation and dissociation takes place.
Again, thank you for your time and I hope you return. If you have question you yourself would like to ask, please do not hesitate to contact Me. And please pass on the web address of this blog to anyone you feel might benefit from reading it.
Sir Strict - THE Cuckold Dom
I have been asked to comment on a few issues by various people and would like to do so now.
A) ATLcuck asked Me to try to explain for his partner "what's in it for the cuck?" In effect I take it that the question is "If someone is married to or in a stable relationship with, a female partner, why and how do they achieve happiness from the knowledge that their female partner is having sex with others?”
This may be a difficult concept for many to understand, and I fully acknowledge that. Also please understand I am only giving ONE point of view on this subject. There are as many reasons and other points of view as there are male cuckolds, all of which have their own view and all of which are, for them and their partners, equally valid.My experience has shown Me that the males involved with their partners in this lifestyle are usually highly sexual individuals, thinking about sex, wanting sex, and wanting all those around them to want as much sex as they do, literally all the time. In such cases, the male may "mentally" or "emotionally" enlist the aid of their partner in the fulfilment of this "fantasy" and this way of life. The act of having sex with someone other than one's spouse can, for instance:
a) be a fulfilment of the "partner in total sexual enjoyment" thought pattern.
b) be seen to be "naughty" and thus of immense sexual turn-on for some.
c) be seen to be providing for one's partner, out of pure love and honour, the amount or duration or passionate sexual encounter that they themselves, either trough medical reasons such as size of their penis, or physical deformity or condition, or the result of side effects from medications necessarily taken because of heart disease or coronary artery disease or diabetes, etc. etc. etc. are unable to provide.
d) and yes, though in very rare cases, be a fulfilment of the mistaken belief that "all women want it as much if not more than males do" so she is going to go find it anyway...
Please note: the last thought above is a VERY small minority of people, but it does exist and I would be dishonest to state otherwise. Also note that there appear, from My own experience, to be more of those in category c above than any other category.
“How do you know if d above is how your partner thinks and feels?”
Step one is to ask them. Remember, in this lifestyle, as in all other lifestyles, from totally "vanilla" lifestyles to the most debauched lifestyle of the old Roman Caesars such as Caligula, open, honest, and complete communication between BOTH participants is paramount to ensuring that this, or any other lifestyle, does not do damage to your relationship but rather adds to it.
So, what does the cuckold get from knowing that his partner is having sex with others? It may simply be a desire to provide good and frequent sex for their partner, when they themselves are unable to for a myriad of reasons. That is more often the reason than any other that I have encountered.
Remember one other thing: If you feel that sex is there ONLY for procreation then I suggest that this lifestyle is not for you. If you believe, however, that almost any avenue of pleasure for yourself as well as your partner is a good thing and hopefully is part of your own lifestyle, then this lifestyle may simply add that 'extra' to your lovemaking.
And, as I have stated previously, some cuckolds hold or harbour latent bi-sexual tendencies and wish to explore those as well, WITH their opposite present at all times to ensure it is a "shared" experience.
B) aaron69nj suggest that we look at unconventional (single rather than married) couples and their practice of this lifestyle.
The single couple joining in the cuckold mix, definitely does exist, and probably more often than one assumes.
It may prove to be simply a way for a man and woman to enjoy sexual encounters themselves with their partner present and with their approval, rather than something that is potentially damaging their relationship by hiding it away from their partner.
It may also help to determine if their 'partner' can "keep up with them" in their enjoyment of sex or not before making a complete commitment to that individual.And, like others, it may simply be a hedonistic way to experience pleasure, both in a heterosexual and, for some homosexual or bisexual way.
What ever the reasons behind the single couple involving themselves in this lifestyle, their involvement is as valid as any other participants and their reasons are equally valid for themselves as well.
Friends, though I have said this before, I cannot emphasise enough the absolute necessity for open honest communication between ANY couple who find themselves contemplating joining this wonderful exciting vibrant lifestyle. Keep that communication open always, and free flowing between the participants and the couple can do naught but enjoy their experience in the cuckold way of life.
Couple that with:
1) common sense - if something about others doesn't feel right, get away from as quickly as possible, and
2) ALWAYS ensure that you are not, nor putting your partner, at risk from STD infection, and you will enjoy your participation in this lifestyle as you do in any other.
C) I have also been asked if there are cases of "cuckold couples in reverse", i.e., the male has sexual liaisons with other females while the female becomes the cuckold, with the same duties as a male cuckold would have.
The short answer is yes, but relatively few. I feel this to actually be unfortunate, simply because when it is practiced this way, normally ONLY the male knows what is going on, and it is sometimes years (if ever) before they are honest enough with their female partners to disclose this truth; that they have sex with other women (or males).
Our society classes that type of behaviour as the "straying spouse" and we all acknowledge that that is much more prevalent in our society than any other form of "other" sexual encounter. Indeed, it was the basis in history for the origination of this as a ‘lifestyle’. Only when the two partners communicate completely, openly, and honestly with each other however will they find real compatibility.
And a final note: If you wish to explore this but are afraid that your partner will leave you if you are honest with them, ensure you have a good, well recommended, professional sexual or psychological councillor (possibly even a marriage councillor) present to ensure that no "ruptures" take place in your relationship but that adequate measure are in place to ensure that communication rather than accusation and dissociation takes place.
Again, thank you for your time and I hope you return. If you have question you yourself would like to ask, please do not hesitate to contact Me. And please pass on the web address of this blog to anyone you feel might benefit from reading it.
Stay safe, sane, and concentual always.
Sir Strict - THE Cuckold Dom
Saturday, December 16, 2006
A Few Random Questions and Answers
Hello Dear Reader
This post will try to cover a few different subjects. I hope you find something of interest here. If you wish to contact Me, feel free to email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com with your questions or ideas.
Q 1. Are all cuckolds bisexual?
A 1. Not at all. Many are, and many are not. It is entirely a choice of the individual cuckold weather he is bisexual or not. He may be totally heterosexual and simply wish his partner to have more sexual gratification than he himself can provide. He may also be heterosexual and may find that he and his partner ONLY have sex with other couples (more like swinging than a true cuckold relationship). He may also find that he is bisexual, and enjoys not only ensuring that his partner has sex with other men, but also enjoys having sex with the same, or other men as well.
As in every other lifestyle there is, the cuckold lifestyle varies from participant to participant. There are no 'hard and fast rules' in this lifestyle any more than there are in any other lifestyle.
Some men may also desire humiliation as part of their cuckolding experience and again, that is easily provided by a competent Dom or Domme.
Q 2. How is Humiliation defined and do all cuckolds require humiliation?
A 2. Humiliation is, one might say, "in the eye of the beholder". In other words, being made to stay at home and wait for his partners return, and then listen to her explanation and description of her exploits with other men, may be the humiliation he requires.
It may also be being made to clean, shave, dress, and apply makeup to his female partner to ready her for use by her Master/lover/lovers.
Also, being called to not only do those things, but also to provide what are known as "fluffer" duties for any prospective lover his partner may have, as well as being called upon to lick and suck clean any deposits left in his partners various holes by her lovers, and/or being required to suck clean her lovers cocks after they have used his partner, may also be termed 'humiliation' by many.
Others will find that they will also provide anal sex for any of his partners lovers who are a) desirous of it and b) are possibly 'waiting in line' as it were. Obviously the necessity to adhere to cleanliness issues is also of paramount importance always.
So, yet again, the definition of humiliation will vary from individual to individual.
Is humiliation required by all cuckolds? No, not all, but the majority will wish for one form or another of the above. It plays a large part of the modern cuckold’s involvement and enjoyment to be humiliated in one form or another and it should be noted that if the couple has a Dominant as well, then these matters should be discussed with that all three participants to assure mutually satisfying ends.
Q 3. Why can't a couple simply do this on their own without the necessity of a Cuckold Dominant?
A 3. Indeed, for many, it can. However many also enjoy the fact that the Dominant will:
a) find suitable lovers for the female partner to have sexual relations with
b) ensure that proper medical certification guaranteeing a lack of STD in those sexual partners, and that it is evident and current and
c) ensure that both members of the couple are protected from harm of any sort.
The choice to have or not to have a Dominant is entirely up to the couple to make for themselves. If they are fortunate enough to find a competent Dominant who will satisfy all their needs for sexual fulfilment, their experience will be enhanced and trouble free.
Q 5. Are all cuckolds wimps?
A 5. Not at all. Many cuckolds are indeed very strong and Macho males in many respects. Remember, sexual inadequacy may be the result of physical deformities and medically induced inability to maintain erection (as a result of some heart and high blood pressure medications as well as some diabetic medications, and cancer treatments in some cases). Many cuckold males simply wish to find a safe way to provide the sexual gratification for their partners that they themselves are unable to provide.
a) opportunity they themselves have not had, or
b) the courage to try various sexual activities and lifestyles, which they find themselves incapable of doing.
Therefore, looked at in that light, the term "slut" is actually one to be proud of and not something to be ashamed of. It denotes courage, forthrightness, honesty, and an ability to go out and get exactly what one wishes rather than sit and decry the fact that it "can't be done" and try to make oneself feel better by finger-pointing.
Sir.Strict - THE Cuckold Dom
This post will try to cover a few different subjects. I hope you find something of interest here. If you wish to contact Me, feel free to email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com with your questions or ideas.
Q 1. Are all cuckolds bisexual?
A 1. Not at all. Many are, and many are not. It is entirely a choice of the individual cuckold weather he is bisexual or not. He may be totally heterosexual and simply wish his partner to have more sexual gratification than he himself can provide. He may also be heterosexual and may find that he and his partner ONLY have sex with other couples (more like swinging than a true cuckold relationship). He may also find that he is bisexual, and enjoys not only ensuring that his partner has sex with other men, but also enjoys having sex with the same, or other men as well.
As in every other lifestyle there is, the cuckold lifestyle varies from participant to participant. There are no 'hard and fast rules' in this lifestyle any more than there are in any other lifestyle.
Some men may also desire humiliation as part of their cuckolding experience and again, that is easily provided by a competent Dom or Domme.
Q 2. How is Humiliation defined and do all cuckolds require humiliation?
A 2. Humiliation is, one might say, "in the eye of the beholder". In other words, being made to stay at home and wait for his partners return, and then listen to her explanation and description of her exploits with other men, may be the humiliation he requires.
It may also be being made to clean, shave, dress, and apply makeup to his female partner to ready her for use by her Master/lover/lovers.
Also, being called to not only do those things, but also to provide what are known as "fluffer" duties for any prospective lover his partner may have, as well as being called upon to lick and suck clean any deposits left in his partners various holes by her lovers, and/or being required to suck clean her lovers cocks after they have used his partner, may also be termed 'humiliation' by many.
Others will find that they will also provide anal sex for any of his partners lovers who are a) desirous of it and b) are possibly 'waiting in line' as it were. Obviously the necessity to adhere to cleanliness issues is also of paramount importance always.
So, yet again, the definition of humiliation will vary from individual to individual.
Is humiliation required by all cuckolds? No, not all, but the majority will wish for one form or another of the above. It plays a large part of the modern cuckold’s involvement and enjoyment to be humiliated in one form or another and it should be noted that if the couple has a Dominant as well, then these matters should be discussed with that all three participants to assure mutually satisfying ends.
Q 3. Why can't a couple simply do this on their own without the necessity of a Cuckold Dominant?
A 3. Indeed, for many, it can. However many also enjoy the fact that the Dominant will:
a) find suitable lovers for the female partner to have sexual relations with
b) ensure that proper medical certification guaranteeing a lack of STD in those sexual partners, and that it is evident and current and
c) ensure that both members of the couple are protected from harm of any sort.
The choice to have or not to have a Dominant is entirely up to the couple to make for themselves. If they are fortunate enough to find a competent Dominant who will satisfy all their needs for sexual fulfilment, their experience will be enhanced and trouble free.
Q 5. Are all cuckolds wimps?
A 5. Not at all. Many cuckolds are indeed very strong and Macho males in many respects. Remember, sexual inadequacy may be the result of physical deformities and medically induced inability to maintain erection (as a result of some heart and high blood pressure medications as well as some diabetic medications, and cancer treatments in some cases). Many cuckold males simply wish to find a safe way to provide the sexual gratification for their partners that they themselves are unable to provide.
Q 6. Aren't all cuckolding females’ sluts and whores and those who find them other lovers, simply pimps?
A 6. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The female member of a cuckold couple is not normally someone who will charge money for her sexual favours to begin with. Thus the term "whore", which is defined as a prostitute who charges money for sexual activity, certainly doesn’t apply in this case.
The term "slut" is historically used by other women, who point to another woman who has had either:a) opportunity they themselves have not had, or
b) the courage to try various sexual activities and lifestyles, which they find themselves incapable of doing.
Therefore, looked at in that light, the term "slut" is actually one to be proud of and not something to be ashamed of. It denotes courage, forthrightness, honesty, and an ability to go out and get exactly what one wishes rather than sit and decry the fact that it "can't be done" and try to make oneself feel better by finger-pointing.
I hope you have found something of interest here. I will post more multiple questions and answers soon. Thank you for reading and remember, if you have a specific question or desire help in any way, do not hesitate to contact Me here or at cuckold.dom@gmail.com
Sir.Strict - THE Cuckold Dom
Sunday, December 10, 2006
Explanations re: This Cuckold Dom
Hello
Because of email I have received in response to this blog, I feel it necessary to state a few things about Myself and My own situation to hopefully lessen the chance of misunderstanding.
First of all, I am located on the Gold Coast of the Australian state of Queensland, a subtropical place I have chosen to retire to because of it's good weather, plentiful tropical and sub-tropical fruit and vegetables as well as good quality beef, pork, lamb, and seafood of every description.
Secondly, I am not an Australian, but rather an American who has chosen to live here. America may be for some, but not this Old One. I grew up there, served in the US Military, got an education there and then left as I could determine where that country was headed and didn't wish to be part of the ride.
Because of email I have received in response to this blog, I feel it necessary to state a few things about Myself and My own situation to hopefully lessen the chance of misunderstanding.
First of all, I am located on the Gold Coast of the Australian state of Queensland, a subtropical place I have chosen to retire to because of it's good weather, plentiful tropical and sub-tropical fruit and vegetables as well as good quality beef, pork, lamb, and seafood of every description.
Secondly, I am not an Australian, but rather an American who has chosen to live here. America may be for some, but not this Old One. I grew up there, served in the US Military, got an education there and then left as I could determine where that country was headed and didn't wish to be part of the ride.
Lastly, this blog is based on My own involvement in the cuckold lifestyle over 27 years. I would be the last one to state that the way I view, and even participate, in this lifestyle is certainly not the ONLY way it should be viewed. The participants in this lifestyle vary as widely as they do in any lifestyle. Look at those you see on your street or in your workplace. Do they all look/dress/act/believe/think the same way as you do? Of course not. They do those things as suits their own circumstance and/or personality.
Thus, the cuckold lifestyle varies greatly as well. It varies from a couple who wish to try multiple partners on the one extreme, to a Threesome comprised of:
1. a female desirous of not only every form of sexual gratification she can have but also of control in her life and her activities by a sexual Dominant other than her husband, including being corporally disciplined by that Dominant when she wishes to experience that form of caring by her Master,2. a male who wishes to also be under the complete control of a sexual Dominant, and who wishes to expand his bisexual desires and thus not only perform maintenance duties on his female partner (bathing, shaving, dressing, etc) but also wishes to be dominated in every aspect of his involvement in the sexual activity of his female partner, to the point of providing not only transport to and from her Master, but also "fluffer" duties when call on to do so and "cleanup" duties on his female partner AND her other sexual partners as well. For those who wish further explanation of those terms - "fluffer" duties means sucking male cocks to sufficient hardness and length to allow them to have intercourse with their female partner, while "cleanup" duties consists of sucking the ejaculate from any place her male sexual partners have left it as well as sucking their cocks clean after they have had sexual relations with the female. He may also be called on to provide his anus for those who wish to use it as well as any other duties the Dominant wishes him to have. Note: this normally also fulfills a strong "humiliation" desire of the cuckold male.
3. a Sexual Dominant (either male or female) who will take total control of both members of the cuckold couple and their sexual activity.
I hope this is of help in understanding this blog and this lifestyle. I am alwys ready and happy to receive email from anyone about this blog.
May you be well, happy, and safe at all times.
The Cuckold Dom
The many and varied roles of a Cuckold Dom
If you have reached this point I hope that means that you have had time to read the other posts I have made here and that you find them informative.
As My profile states, I have been involved in the cuckold lifestyel as a Cuckold Dom for just over 27 years and find it stimulating, both mentally and sexually, and always a challenge.
The basic role of a cuckold Dom is to provide, for the cuckold female partner, any and all sexual partners who have been found to be:
a) disease free
b) not a nut case
c) equipped with not only good and functioning sexual equipment but also with knowledge in how to use it to give maximum pleasure to her
d) training for the cuckold female partner to expand and develop her sexual properties with as many and any varied sexual partners, both male and female
e) training for any cuckold who wishes to learn the vaguries of service to his partner but also wishes to learn from their cuckold Dom how to take care of his wife so that she can be presented in a way that is pleasing and also in a way to give her the most sexual gratification possible, as well as maintain what ever other directives the cuckold Dom may give him.
The cuckold Dominant also has the obligation, first and foremost, to provide sexual enjoyment for the female of the couple, but in a safe, sane, and concentual way.
THE Cuckold Dom
As My profile states, I have been involved in the cuckold lifestyel as a Cuckold Dom for just over 27 years and find it stimulating, both mentally and sexually, and always a challenge.
The basic role of a cuckold Dom is to provide, for the cuckold female partner, any and all sexual partners who have been found to be:
a) disease free
b) not a nut case
c) equipped with not only good and functioning sexual equipment but also with knowledge in how to use it to give maximum pleasure to her
d) training for the cuckold female partner to expand and develop her sexual properties with as many and any varied sexual partners, both male and female
e) training for any cuckold who wishes to learn the vaguries of service to his partner but also wishes to learn from their cuckold Dom how to take care of his wife so that she can be presented in a way that is pleasing and also in a way to give her the most sexual gratification possible, as well as maintain what ever other directives the cuckold Dom may give him.
The cuckold Dominant also has the obligation, first and foremost, to provide sexual enjoyment for the female of the couple, but in a safe, sane, and concentual way.
Finding suitable male sexual partners for her can, believe it or not, be a chore in itself. However, it is not impossible if one sticks to their standards of cleanliness necessitated in the new sexual partner. Also, providing training for the female and the male can, at times become a time consuming and difficult task. However, if one is to be and to become a true sexual Dominant these duties may not be ignored. This lifestyle is NOT all about the sexual Dominant but rather about the satisfaction of the couple.
In many instances, Myself included, the sexual Dominant will not have intercourse with the cuckold woman at all. That type of Dominant takes pleasure from providing what the couple themselves need and watching them grow in knowledge and in sexual awareness. This type of Dominant may participate or allow the couple to participate in oral sex with Him for gratification though not always. It depends on the individuals and on the relationship and "contract" they have developed with each other and with their chosen sexual Dominant.
Mo9re on this in a later post. Than you for reading this blog and please pass it on to anyone you feel might benefit from it and it's explanations.
Wednesday, December 6, 2006
The Role of a woman with a cuckold partner
Throughout history if a woman desired more good sex than she received from her partner she either did without it, or she took courage in hand and sought it elsewhere. That didn’t mean she ended her marriage or arrangement with her partner but it did mean that, from societies point of view, she “cheated” on her partner. Even in our western music we have instances of this happening and if one remembers the song by Kenny Rogers titled “Ruby, Don’t Take Your Love To Town” one remembers that the singer (the male partner) is a returned war veteran with a disability, and is thus unable to provide his partner with the sexual fulfillment she needs.
However, unlike that song, the woman in that position who finds herself with a partner who not only shares her concern for sexual fulfillment, but wishes to help her find fulfillment elsewhere, has a cuckold for a partner/husband and thus enters into a cuckold relationship.
Many in this type of relationship go looking for sexual fulfillment in all the wrong ways and all the wrong places, and thus both partners end up being dissatisfied with the outcome. Yes, she will be getting all the sexual activity she desires, but possibly not from the people or types of people she desires, and certainly seldom safely. Her partner will seldom be totally satisfied in his cuckold desires either and may find himself unable or unhappy with the way he is able to fulfill or not fulfill his part in the arrangement.
Thus, the woman needs, first and foremost, to explore various possibilities, including sex with known friends, sex with strangers but in a safe environment, sex with strangers in unsafe environments, and sex under the control of a strong Dominant (either male or female). She may also find that sex with another female will suffice and provide the entire sexual fulfillment she desires.
The important thing to remember about a sexually liberated woman who seeks more sexual fulfillment than she presently has, is can she find it in a safe, sane, and consensual environment on her own, or does she feel it wise to allow a Dominant to assist her to find her sexual fulfillment or not. She also must realise that not only sexual intercourse will provide what she desires, and may find that sex in ways that her partner denies her, or does poorly, is what she needs (oral, anal, manipulative sexual release). Her partner will normally encourage her in any attempt to find sexual fulfillment and enjoyment. Indeed, in those who have found their mutual enjoyment enhanced, many have found that a sexual Dominant, who takes both the male and female partners of a cuckold relationship under His/Her wing, is the answer that best serves their needs and desires, as the Dominant fulfills many roles, including procurer of safe sexual partners (for both the male and female cuckold partners) as well as the responsibility of ensuring that both partners desires are basically met.
As always, if you have questions about this lifestyle, ask them and let Me try to find you a suitable answer. My 27 years of involvement in this lifestyle and the D/s lifestyle is there to give council.
The Cuckold Dom
However, unlike that song, the woman in that position who finds herself with a partner who not only shares her concern for sexual fulfillment, but wishes to help her find fulfillment elsewhere, has a cuckold for a partner/husband and thus enters into a cuckold relationship.
Many in this type of relationship go looking for sexual fulfillment in all the wrong ways and all the wrong places, and thus both partners end up being dissatisfied with the outcome. Yes, she will be getting all the sexual activity she desires, but possibly not from the people or types of people she desires, and certainly seldom safely. Her partner will seldom be totally satisfied in his cuckold desires either and may find himself unable or unhappy with the way he is able to fulfill or not fulfill his part in the arrangement.
Thus, the woman needs, first and foremost, to explore various possibilities, including sex with known friends, sex with strangers but in a safe environment, sex with strangers in unsafe environments, and sex under the control of a strong Dominant (either male or female). She may also find that sex with another female will suffice and provide the entire sexual fulfillment she desires.
The important thing to remember about a sexually liberated woman who seeks more sexual fulfillment than she presently has, is can she find it in a safe, sane, and consensual environment on her own, or does she feel it wise to allow a Dominant to assist her to find her sexual fulfillment or not. She also must realise that not only sexual intercourse will provide what she desires, and may find that sex in ways that her partner denies her, or does poorly, is what she needs (oral, anal, manipulative sexual release). Her partner will normally encourage her in any attempt to find sexual fulfillment and enjoyment. Indeed, in those who have found their mutual enjoyment enhanced, many have found that a sexual Dominant, who takes both the male and female partners of a cuckold relationship under His/Her wing, is the answer that best serves their needs and desires, as the Dominant fulfills many roles, including procurer of safe sexual partners (for both the male and female cuckold partners) as well as the responsibility of ensuring that both partners desires are basically met.
As always, if you have questions about this lifestyle, ask them and let Me try to find you a suitable answer. My 27 years of involvement in this lifestyle and the D/s lifestyle is there to give council.
The Cuckold Dom
What is the role of a cuckold?
First of all let's look at some definitions. The Online Encyclopaedia called Wikipedia describes a cuckold as follows: "A cuckold (or cuck) is a married man whose wife has sex with other men. In current usage it sometimes refers to non-married couples in committed relationships as well, although the traditional meaning is a man whose wife is adulterous."
The article, found at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold, goes on to say that "The earliest written use of the Middle English derivation, “cokewold” occurs in 1250." Therefore this is not something new, and many, many people throughout the ages have willingly participated in this lifestyle for many years.
The article also correctly states that "A man who knows and acquiesced, in his wife’s taking of another lover was called a “wittol” itself a derivation from the Middle English for “willing (as in knowing) cuckold.” For our purposes, the term cuckold will suffice. Therefore, though originally a cuckold was considered to be a man who had a partner who had sexual relations with other men while he remained unaware of her "infidelity" so to speak, in today’s usage the male cuckold is often the instigator of sexual relations between his partner and others.
The reasons for this are many and varied and it would be inappropriate to try and state them all here. However, one important point should be made here: suffice it to say that the male does NOT love his partner less because of her sexual exploits. In fact he could be said to love her MORE, in that he is willing to share her so that she can, unencumbered by sexual mores of society, or the fear that he will leave the marriage because of her needs, enjoy her own sexual needs and ensure they are met.
Usually there are various reasons (often physical) that he finds that he is incapable of providing all of the sexual enjoyment that his partner rightfully deserves. It may be that medication he takes for various conditions (heart disease, high blood pressure, and diabetes to name but a few) have caused him to be unable to raise, or to maintain, an erection for long enough to achieve an orgasm for his partner. He may also have a physical “under-endowment” in relation to size, girth, or length that his partner requires to reach her orgasm.
Most have tried and still do use oral sex as a way of satisfying their partners, but that too can become boring after a while. Many cuckold males also find that they either are bisexual or at least are also bi-curious, and thus the thought of watching another male have intercourse or any sexual activity of any kind with his partner is exciting. He may also harbour desires to suck the ejaculate from his partners various holes (as a bisexual submissive humiliation act) and also may desire to suck clean any males penis that have penetrated his partner.
Most males in this situation at first fear that their partner will shun them totally, and/or that the sexual Dominant will exclude him from further contact with his partner and thus damage the relationship he presently has with his partner. If the sexual Dominant is a capable and knowledgeable Dominant, they would never ever allow the couple to separate because of the situation they find themselves in. The Dominant is NOT there to wreck homes nor relationships (this will be explained further in another post).
Therefore, assuming that the cuckold couple are in agreement on the issue of her being sexually fulfilled by a strong knowledgeable Dominant, the role of the cuckold is to bath, wash, clean, and shave his partner, and generally prepare her for his and her Dominants use sexually. A cuckold may be required to transport the female to her Dominant and retrieve her when called to do so. He may also be either required to leave while the sexual liaison between the female and her Dominant takes place, or, may be required to accompany the female and simply stand or sit and watch as she is used sexually by her Dominant. This is, of course, an act that adds to the “humiliation” aspect of a cuckold existence and is wanted by many cuckolds.
Some cuckolds will also be required (and enjoy being asked) to provide "fluffer" duties when told to (sucking male penises to erection) and may also be required to provide "cleanup" duties, which may entail sucking the ejaculate from his female partners various orifices, and/or sucking any male penis clean that has finished using her for their mutual sexual pleasure.
Thus, some (not all, but a majority actually) will freely admit to being bisexual or at least bi-curious and having that fantasy fulfilled as well as seeing or hearing or being told of his partners sexual activity with her lover(s).
The cuckold also should be allowed to have access to the sexual Dominant for guidance, control, and/or to ask any question about their relationship that he wishes to ask. A competent Dominant will always keep the male cuckold safe from harm and will answer any questions he may have at any time, or at a specified question time. The level of submission and humiliation will differ from individual to individual and should be worked out between the sexual Dominant and the cuckold through communication.
Thus, in essence, the cuckold is trying to do two things: a) provide his female partner with any and all sexual gratification that she requires or desires.
b) fulfil a fantasy of domination by a sexual Dominant, of both his partner and himself.
Again, if you have any questions feel free to write Me at cuckold.dom@gmail.com and I will attempt to answer them directly or in this blog.
CuckoldDom
The article, found at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold, goes on to say that "The earliest written use of the Middle English derivation, “cokewold” occurs in 1250." Therefore this is not something new, and many, many people throughout the ages have willingly participated in this lifestyle for many years.
The article also correctly states that "A man who knows and acquiesced, in his wife’s taking of another lover was called a “wittol” itself a derivation from the Middle English for “willing (as in knowing) cuckold.” For our purposes, the term cuckold will suffice. Therefore, though originally a cuckold was considered to be a man who had a partner who had sexual relations with other men while he remained unaware of her "infidelity" so to speak, in today’s usage the male cuckold is often the instigator of sexual relations between his partner and others.
The reasons for this are many and varied and it would be inappropriate to try and state them all here. However, one important point should be made here: suffice it to say that the male does NOT love his partner less because of her sexual exploits. In fact he could be said to love her MORE, in that he is willing to share her so that she can, unencumbered by sexual mores of society, or the fear that he will leave the marriage because of her needs, enjoy her own sexual needs and ensure they are met.
Usually there are various reasons (often physical) that he finds that he is incapable of providing all of the sexual enjoyment that his partner rightfully deserves. It may be that medication he takes for various conditions (heart disease, high blood pressure, and diabetes to name but a few) have caused him to be unable to raise, or to maintain, an erection for long enough to achieve an orgasm for his partner. He may also have a physical “under-endowment” in relation to size, girth, or length that his partner requires to reach her orgasm.
Most have tried and still do use oral sex as a way of satisfying their partners, but that too can become boring after a while. Many cuckold males also find that they either are bisexual or at least are also bi-curious, and thus the thought of watching another male have intercourse or any sexual activity of any kind with his partner is exciting. He may also harbour desires to suck the ejaculate from his partners various holes (as a bisexual submissive humiliation act) and also may desire to suck clean any males penis that have penetrated his partner.
Most males in this situation at first fear that their partner will shun them totally, and/or that the sexual Dominant will exclude him from further contact with his partner and thus damage the relationship he presently has with his partner. If the sexual Dominant is a capable and knowledgeable Dominant, they would never ever allow the couple to separate because of the situation they find themselves in. The Dominant is NOT there to wreck homes nor relationships (this will be explained further in another post).
Therefore, assuming that the cuckold couple are in agreement on the issue of her being sexually fulfilled by a strong knowledgeable Dominant, the role of the cuckold is to bath, wash, clean, and shave his partner, and generally prepare her for his and her Dominants use sexually. A cuckold may be required to transport the female to her Dominant and retrieve her when called to do so. He may also be either required to leave while the sexual liaison between the female and her Dominant takes place, or, may be required to accompany the female and simply stand or sit and watch as she is used sexually by her Dominant. This is, of course, an act that adds to the “humiliation” aspect of a cuckold existence and is wanted by many cuckolds.
Some cuckolds will also be required (and enjoy being asked) to provide "fluffer" duties when told to (sucking male penises to erection) and may also be required to provide "cleanup" duties, which may entail sucking the ejaculate from his female partners various orifices, and/or sucking any male penis clean that has finished using her for their mutual sexual pleasure.
Thus, some (not all, but a majority actually) will freely admit to being bisexual or at least bi-curious and having that fantasy fulfilled as well as seeing or hearing or being told of his partners sexual activity with her lover(s).
The cuckold also should be allowed to have access to the sexual Dominant for guidance, control, and/or to ask any question about their relationship that he wishes to ask. A competent Dominant will always keep the male cuckold safe from harm and will answer any questions he may have at any time, or at a specified question time. The level of submission and humiliation will differ from individual to individual and should be worked out between the sexual Dominant and the cuckold through communication.
Thus, in essence, the cuckold is trying to do two things: a) provide his female partner with any and all sexual gratification that she requires or desires.
b) fulfil a fantasy of domination by a sexual Dominant, of both his partner and himself.
Again, if you have any questions feel free to write Me at cuckold.dom@gmail.com and I will attempt to answer them directly or in this blog.
CuckoldDom
Hello and Welcome
Hello. Thank you for stopping by.
This blog will no doubt not suit all who come across it, but it is something I feel is necessary for the help of others. I am an older Cuckold Dom, which means that I am a Dominant Male, retired, who has had two cuckold couples under His wing for various times (4 years and 7 years to be exact) and who now finds Himself with time to devote to the education process about the cuckold lifestyle.
I intend over time to pass on wisdom and indeed, training, that I have found in this lifestyle and instruction of how a Cuckold Dom should treat his couple, as well as what each member of the couple should expect and work towards in their relationship with their Dominant.
I should start by saying that the Dominant can be Male or Female. In My case I am a Male Dominant and I can really only speak from that perspective.
If you decide to continue reading this blog as I post to it, you will find the philosophy I have used when in control of a competent couple who wish to expand their relationship in this manner. I am not saying that what I suggest in this blog is the ONLY way things should be done - far from it. Each relationship is different from each other relationship simply because each individual is different. Their wants, needs, and desires may differ immensley and thus each Dom/Domme-couple relationship will differ as well.
Having said that I will try to impart My reasoning and thought process of how I have handled the two couples I have owned in the past (yes, it is a form of ownership and yes, it applies to both the male and the female member of the couple), and indeed, how I would handle any in the future. At the moment I have released the last couple I had so I am indeed, without a suitable cuckold couple to have as My own.
Definitions:
A cuckold couple is a couple (normally male and female) wherein the female is encouraged by her partner to seek sexual gratification from other males. This may be because of any of the following reasons:
a) the male has a very small cock and thus feels that he can never fulfill the wants, needs, and desires of his female partner.
b) the male, through medication for heart conditions or possibly even diabeties, has found that he no longer can raise an erection and thus wishes his partner to find sexual gratification elsewhere.
c) the male may wish to feel mild forms of humiliation in that his partner is finding other males to satisfy her, and the feeling of humiliation is a sexual turnon to that male.
d) the male may be (even closeted) bisexual and wish to have his partner under the sexual control of other men, and also wishes for himself to be under the same sexual control.
e) the male simply feels that other males fucking his wife/partner is a tremendous sexual turnon for him.
3) she wishes to be under the sexual control of a Strong Dominant Male or Female, and thus be that Dominant's sexual submissive.
4) she wishes to humiliate her partner as she knows it is something that excites her partner and thus will submit to a Dominant's demands and control.
If you find that ANY of the above relate to yourself, you are a prime candidate to becoming a sexual submissive to a Strong Dominant and thus, if you are in a relationship that is of long standing (marriage for instance) you are part the way there to becoming a cuckold partner.
Note: to make this work, BOTH the male and female partners need to be in agreement about their sexual future and activity. They need to discuss the reamifications of entering this lifestyle - and NO - this lifestyle does NOT mean that the couple separates. They will both, in ideal circumstance, be submissive to the same Dominant Master and thus join forces to enhance their sexual enjoyment.
This blog will no doubt not suit all who come across it, but it is something I feel is necessary for the help of others. I am an older Cuckold Dom, which means that I am a Dominant Male, retired, who has had two cuckold couples under His wing for various times (4 years and 7 years to be exact) and who now finds Himself with time to devote to the education process about the cuckold lifestyle.
If you are offended by talk of a male who not only allows, but encourages his partner to have sex with other males and females, and who himself desires to be a bisexual submissive under the guidance and control of a Dominant Male who will assist the couple to find happiness, safely, sanely, and with good humor, then this blog is NOT for you.
I should start by saying that the Dominant can be Male or Female. In My case I am a Male Dominant and I can really only speak from that perspective.
If you decide to continue reading this blog as I post to it, you will find the philosophy I have used when in control of a competent couple who wish to expand their relationship in this manner. I am not saying that what I suggest in this blog is the ONLY way things should be done - far from it. Each relationship is different from each other relationship simply because each individual is different. Their wants, needs, and desires may differ immensley and thus each Dom/Domme-couple relationship will differ as well.
Having said that I will try to impart My reasoning and thought process of how I have handled the two couples I have owned in the past (yes, it is a form of ownership and yes, it applies to both the male and the female member of the couple), and indeed, how I would handle any in the future. At the moment I have released the last couple I had so I am indeed, without a suitable cuckold couple to have as My own.
Definitions:
A cuckold couple is a couple (normally male and female) wherein the female is encouraged by her partner to seek sexual gratification from other males. This may be because of any of the following reasons:
a) the male has a very small cock and thus feels that he can never fulfill the wants, needs, and desires of his female partner.
b) the male, through medication for heart conditions or possibly even diabeties, has found that he no longer can raise an erection and thus wishes his partner to find sexual gratification elsewhere.
c) the male may wish to feel mild forms of humiliation in that his partner is finding other males to satisfy her, and the feeling of humiliation is a sexual turnon to that male.
d) the male may be (even closeted) bisexual and wish to have his partner under the sexual control of other men, and also wishes for himself to be under the same sexual control.
e) the male simply feels that other males fucking his wife/partner is a tremendous sexual turnon for him.
1) the female finds that she cannot achieve orgasm because her partners sexual equipment is either not large enough, is not able to remain hard for long enough for her to orgasm, and/or her partner orgasms too quickly for her to achieve her own orgasm.
2) she always has had various sexual partners and wishes to continue that practice even though she is now married to someone.3) she wishes to be under the sexual control of a Strong Dominant Male or Female, and thus be that Dominant's sexual submissive.
4) she wishes to humiliate her partner as she knows it is something that excites her partner and thus will submit to a Dominant's demands and control.
If you find that ANY of the above relate to yourself, you are a prime candidate to becoming a sexual submissive to a Strong Dominant and thus, if you are in a relationship that is of long standing (marriage for instance) you are part the way there to becoming a cuckold partner.
Note: to make this work, BOTH the male and female partners need to be in agreement about their sexual future and activity. They need to discuss the reamifications of entering this lifestyle - and NO - this lifestyle does NOT mean that the couple separates. They will both, in ideal circumstance, be submissive to the same Dominant Master and thus join forces to enhance their sexual enjoyment.
That's more than enough to get this started. I look forward to having you read this post often. If you wish to contact Me you may do so at cuckold.dom@gmail.com. You are also invited to comment on this blog, but ONLY those comments of a helpful or enlightening nature will be allowed to remain. If you have a question about the lifestyle, ask, and I will try to answer it to the best of My ability.
In the mean time, be safe, well, and happy, and greetings from the Gold Coast of Queensland, Australia.
CuckoldDom
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